Anger is a very complex feeling. As with any negative emotion, we don`t want to deal with it. The trick is to use your anger so it`s not using you. Here are some suggestions-
1. You are constantly clearing up after your Husband-
You either turn into a nag, or say nothing and then explode one day, throwing all his mess out of the window. But the key to harnessing anger as a positive force is to be aware you are feeling it in the first place. At this time you need to turn your anger into assertiveness. To do this you should make sure your partner doesn`t feel criticized or judged. Encouragement is the way forward and admitting you are not perfect will help too.
2. Your Partner Flirts with a friend at a party-
Usually, You Flip your lid and cause a scene, In the end you will look like a jealous witch in front of everyone. Causing a scene will only make you look even more stupid, instead of all these drama you have 2 choices. First, to ignore his flirting and have a `discussion` about it on the way home. or Second, take him aside subtly at the party and tell him he is upsetting you. He may genuinely have no idea.
3. Your mother demands your presence at a family function, but you were planning a holiday.
You will either throw a tantrum, or give in and sacrifice your trip. But, You only need one tiny change- stick to your guns when usually you give in, or stay clam if usually you lose it to shit the all dynamics.