Breakups are the most uncomfortable and painful thing in the world, How do we deal with our immediate feelings of insecurity, jealousy, loneliness, and self-loathing? How do we stop ourselves from spiraling into depression? And how do we ensure that we come out stronger? They prevent many of us from ever being happy or having a healthy relationship with ourselves and new partners. But it doesn`t have to be that way.
1. Break contact
You need time to heal and so do they. Maintaining a channel of communication will never allow those wounds to fully close. Delete them from Facebook. Don`t hang out with them in group settings. Don`t show up unexpectedly to their house or work. Don`t randomly call just to “see how they`re doing.” No drunk texting, either.
2. Accept
Even if you believe there`s some chance you could get back together, assume that you won`t. If you`re always hoping they`ll come back, you`ll never actually move on. And you`ll only be setting yourself up for a crushing defeat if it never happens.
3. Exercise
Start exercising if you aren`t already. It releases endorphins that boost your mood and help to overcome depression. Plus, improving your health and looking your best always makes you feel more confident.
4. Challenge Yourself
By doing this, you will regain trust in your abilities. You will feel proud for challenging yourself. You will reframe your mind from focusing on the negative to the positive. And you will learn to enjoy being independent.
5. Give Time
This is the simplest advice here and perhaps the most useful. When you lose someone meaningful to you, you won`t feel great overnight. Be patient and follow the above advice of investing in yourself, spending time with good company, and meeting new people. If you can do that, I promise it will get better.