If you have respect for each other, the obstacles youíll face as a couple will be easier to overcome because you will both be able to look at it from each otherís perspectives. But when thereís a lack of respect, the relationship doesnít have a solid foundation and is ultimately doomed to fail.
You wonít be able to last in a relationship that doesnít show you respect, or if you do stay in it, itíll wear you down. Either way, itís not a good option for you.
R-e-s-p-e-c-t goes a long way. Here are the signs of a lack of respect in a relationship to know where your relationship falls.
# You don't feel like you're a priorityWhen it comes to relationships, your partner should be a priority in your life, and vice versa. When you're a priority, you're seen as an important part of their life. But if you're the only one who's always making plans or working around their schedule, that's not a sign of respect. A relationship is a two-way street, and they need to meet you halfway.
# Your partner doesn't listen to youWell, sometimes my partner can go on a rant, and I zone outÖ it happens. It can be hard to be an active listener at times. But if your partner is never fully engaged in the conversation, then that's a sign of disrespect. If they cared, they would be giving you their complete attention, especially at times when you need it.
# They don't try to change their selfish habits
We all have habits that are seen as selfish when living with someone else. If you're living alone, then those habits are fine because they don't affect anyone else. But once you're in a relationship, some things you do need to change.
For example, leaving their clothes on the floor or washing the dishes days after cooking. Those things are small, but show how inconsiderate they are of you.
# They're open about their attraction to othersJust because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you're blind. Of course, there are going to be other people you see who are attractive, but that's where it stops. You recognize they're good looking and then move on with your day.
If your partner is commenting to you about their attraction to other people, that's not respectful at all. They're not concerned about your feelings and how those comments affect you.
# They don't want to hang out with your family
Your family is an integral part of your life; they've raised you from birth. Naturally, your family are the closest people you have in your life, aside from your friends. Your partner should be supportive and attend family events with you, etc.
But if they're avoid spending time with you and your family, it's disrespectful. Of course, if your family doesn't like your partner, I understand why they avoid seeing your family. But other than that, not investing time into the things you love is a bad sign.
# They lie to you
When it comes to a relationship, your foundation needs to be built on honesty and trust. If you've caught them in a lie, even if it's something small, that shows a lack of respect. Your partner doesn't feel they need to tell you the truth. Plus, they're not feeling guilty for lying and hiding the truth from you. That's not a good sign.
# They don't go out of their way for youWhen you're in a relationship, your partner relies on you for different things. Sometimes, you go out of your way to help your partner out. This is what being in a relationship is all about. But your partner won't do anything for you if it takes a little extra effort on their part. And that doesn't show love or respect.
# There's no compromisingWhen two people are in a relationship, there's always going to be compromising. Unless you are exact clones of each other, your needs will be different. So, this takes communication and empathy. But in your relationship, your partner doesn't compromise, it's either their way or no way. And if things don't go their way, they make sure you see they're upset about it.
# They try to hurt your feelingsThere are times when we screw up and say things we shouldn't say. I can't tell you I've never said anything hurtful to someone I love. But intentionally trying to hurt someone's feelings is the biggest sign of disrespect.
Why would you intentionally want to hurt someone you love? This is a huge red flag because it can progress into serious emotional abuse.
# Sex is more of a transactionYou almost feel that you owe your partner sex. It's not something romantic and intimate anymore. Instead, it feels like a transaction, something that you should do. And yes, sex is a big part of a relationship, but you don't owe your partner anything. If they're making you feel this way, get out of the relationship.