Feeling insecure is a common struggle that many people face, and it can negatively impact their personal and professional lives. Insecurity can stem from various sources, such as past experiences, social comparison, or self-doubt. While it may not be easy to overcome insecurity, identifying and changing certain habits can be a helpful first step. In this article, we will explore some habits that you should consider changing to stop feeling insecure and improve your overall well-being.
# Stop thinking your job is to make people happy
No one put you on earth to make everyone else happy. Stop thinking it is your job. Often, people with insecurity put the feelings of others ahead of their own.
When you constantly try to make people happy, you only make yourself unhappy. It is a vicious cycle that leads you to feel like a failure, which only breeds more insecurity.
# Realize there are going to be people who don’t like you specifically because everyone likes youYou don’t like everyone, do you? You must stop thinking that if you were better, nicer, kinder, prettier, or whatever, people would like you. Some personalities just don’t meld together well.
# If someone doesn’t like you it is on them, not you
It is okay if someone doesn’t particularly care for you. It isn’t your problem, it is theirs. Some people will not like you because you try too hard to be liked. It is a complex world, people are complex beings.
# Stop thinking you are so importantThe problem many insecure people have is they, and I hate to sound mean because I don’t mean it this way, think too much of themselves. Truthfully, humans are pretty self-absorbed creatures.
Insecure people think they hold more importance in the lives of those around them. They think someone thinks about them past saying “hi” and continually evaluates how people feel about them. It isn’t that you aren’t important, it is just people have their own shit going on.
# Ask yourself why you don’t deserve the same piece of the pie
Insecure people don’t think enough of themselves to think other people like them or that they deserve good things. If you are insecure, you should figure out what it is about yourself that you don’t think is worthy of love or good things.
# What’s the worst that could happen if someone doesn’t like you? When you are insecure, you care very deeply about what others think about you. It is nothing more than a whole lot of wasted time. Before you start to ruminate about why someone didn’t call you back and lead yourself down the “I did something wrong, and they don’t like me” train.
Stop to think about what is the worst that could happen if they didn’t like you. There are billions of people on earth. If they moved on, there are other people in your life, let them go.
# Learn to love youInsecurity really comes down to you not liking you. If you are okay with yourself and love who you are, then you don’t really care about what others think of you.
Insecure people place too much stock in what others think about them because they aren’t sure how they feel about themselves. If you want to stop being insecure, find a way to love yourself.
# If you like you, who cares about anyone else? If you want to dance in the middle of the hallway, do it. Insecure people care way too much about what other people think. If you like you, if you like to do something, or you want to do it, just do it. Stop being limited by worrying so much about what other people think. So what if they don’t like you? How does that hurt you unless you let it?
# Stop judging other peopleOften, people who are hard on other people are hard on themselves. Perhaps if you stop judging other people, you will stop feeling like people judge you.
# Forgive yourselfInsecure people feel bad about themselves. It usually stems from their childhood or past experiences. Whatever it was in your past that made you form your opinion of yourself, whether it was an overbearing mother, a father who couldn’t be bothered with you, or a learning disability that had you on the “slow track,” stop seeing yourself in that light.