10 Most Obvious Signs of a Sapiophile

Would you prefer a date with Elon Musk over Ryan Gosling? Do you find her ability to deconstruct Sartre’s works sexier than the most revealing dress in her wardrobe? Or are you more likely to find your future spouse in a book convention than at a bar? If this is the flavor of your romance, then you most likely are a sapiophile.

If you’re someone who’s more into someone’s mind rather than their body, or drawn to someone who displays even the slightest knowledge, these are some of the clearest signs of a sapiophile. If you resonate with some of these signs, you might just be one!

A sapiophile is someone who is attracted to intelligence more than any other trait.So if this is you, you’d rather dive into someone’s mind rather than their body. Of course, this doesn’t mean a sapiophile would never get attracted to someone’s physical qualities.

However, what makes them attracted both sexually and romantically is the intellect and mindset of a person. This is why when dating a sapiophile, they generally enjoy meaningful and deep conversations over trivial gossip.

# You are most likely an intelligent person yourself

Chemistry class taught us the phrase “like dissolves like” for substances. In the same way, sapiophiles tend to attract their own kind. The minds of intelligent people work on a much more complex level than the average person.

That’s why their preferences and manner of socializing are a bit complicated for anyone below their intelligence level. Simply put: less smart people bore them. For others, a sapiophile might seem out of their league or that their standards are way too high.

In reality, one of the signs of a sapiophile is that they’re just looking for someone who understands their mind and thoughts.

# You crave intelligent conversation like how an average person craves sex

Not that sapiophiles don’t want sex. It’s just that intellectual and deep conversations excite them the same way sex does. Sapiophiles likely spend dates having long discussions about science, politics, art, or literature. This is why in order to turn on a sapiophile in the manner you’d turn on an average person, you need to get their mind.

So discussing anything and everything meaningful in life will excite them more than anything. Gossip and showbiz inanities have no place in post-dinner talk, and foreplay is probably a debate over a current political issue.

# You want someone who holds their own in a conversation

Be it your family members, that overbearing friend, or the other friend with outlandish political views, the sapiophile wants someone who converses with different types of people with different views and still manages to convey their own views without fear or prejudice.

They actually don’t mind conversing with someone with a different political opinion or religious belief. It holds for a great conversation where they could go on and on for hours about their side, and they’d also listen to what the opposing side has to say.

This kind of healthy and constructive debate keeps them on their toes for hours.

Contrary to popular belief, sapiophiles do have a sense of humor. They’re not as serious and rigid as you think they are. They’re just incredibly picky with their sense of humor, which is one of the signs of a sapiophile.

While it’s true that a sense of humor can be at your advantage when finding a romantic partner, sapiophiles prefer a more profound sense of humor. This humor involves witty remarks, wordplay, and clever repartees.

It would be hard to make a sapiophile laugh if you only stick to juvenile dick jokes.

# Blatant ignorance quickly turns you off

There will be times when a beefy, overconfident guy or a superficial, air-headed girl comes your way and flirts with you. And no matter how physically attractive and trendy they get, you always have that primordial impulse to run for the hills rather than spend time with them.

Again, you’re not a superficial person and as a sapiophile, this kind of ignorance isn’t just something you want in someone. No matter how hot they are, you care more about how they think and their intelligence.

# Wrong grammar rubs you in a bad way

Once in a while, you get a message inviting you for a date of some sort. Sapiophiles immediately have their “grammar filter” on screening those noble enough to defy the 140-character limit.

One of the signs of a sapiophile is when you’re very picky in their grammar when they text you, especially when conversing. So the minute you find that their texts are full of bad grammar or a lazy usage of bad abbreviations, it’s an immediate no for you.

# You’re more interested in what’s on their bookshelf than in their wardrobe

Sapiophiles love themselves a comprehensive reader. However, it doesn’t end there. The average sapiophile has a scrutinizing eye for the titles you read. Are you for those cheaply-concocted vampire literature, or for some hardcore non-fiction that university professors wouldn’t even care to open?

Because, to a sapiophile, books are good topics for a deep conversation. In fact, if you’re not a reader, expect that a sapiophile will judge you right off the bat *and might even refrain from talking with you again*.

# You are familiar with the “Thinking Man/Woman’s Crumpet”

For you, the embodiment of perfection is a person as smart as they are beautiful and talented.

The “thinking man/woman’s crumpet” is such a person, and you will be familiar with the names listed under this category: Brian Cox, Benedict Cumberbatch, Colin Firth, and Bill Nighy for the ladies. Nigella Lawson, Gillian Anderson, and Carol Vorderman for the guys.

# You prefer people with taste

Okay, having taste is very subjective. But for a sapiophile, they want someone with a similar taste to them. Sapiophiles prefer people who have developed their own taste of fashion, music, and ideas rather than adhering to trends.

They are aware that, like the Jedi mind trick, trends only affect the weak-minded. They can even judge a person initially based on the things they like, so if it’s not up to their intellectual standards, they’re just not interested.

# You’re attracted to people of substance rather than people who want popularity

Sapiophiles wouldn’t care much about the likes and followers people starve for social media. They want people who talk about things that matter. In fact, they choose someone with unpopular yet realistic views rather than someone who says yes just to get the crowd to like them.

Everything about a sapiophile is substantial, which is one of the more admirable things about having one in your life. They don’t care about status, reputation, or image. All they care about is the things that really matter, such as knowledge and intellect.