10 Rules You Need To Follow To Be a Good Partner

Your partner may be flawed, but are you truly perfect? Read these 10 rules to know if youíre a good partner before you point out your partnerís flaws.

Itís easy to focus on what your partner is doing wrong, to get annoyed and frustrated by it, but have you ever stopped to think that maybe you arenít doing everything right either?

Itís easy to see flaws in others but is it as easy to see flaws in ourselves? How do you know whether or not you are being a good partner?

# You have a right to be angry but you donít have the right to be cruel

If you want to be a good partner, then this is a really important one to remember. Everyone has a right to be angry, sometimes it canít be helped, however itís the way you deal with that anger that determines whether or not you are being fair.

Itís okay to tell your partner if they have done something to upset you, itís not okay to insult them for it, to bring up the past or to throw things in their face. If you do this, then you wonít solve the issue that made you angry in the first place, you will just escalate the conversation into an argument. The likelihood is that your partner wonít have meant to upset you, so deliberately hurting them or insulting them is out of line, no matter how justified you feel at the time.

# Sometimes when youíre right, you still need to back down, for the sake of peace

Itís easy to get carried away in an argument, especially if youíre right. What isnít easy is backing down. Sometimes, it just doesnít matter who is right and who is wrong, the only thing that matters is ending the argument. Donít let your pride rule you, you need to know when itís okay to back down and make peace.

# Accepting that people change will stop you from having to make a change

People change all the time, everything that happens to a person changes them in some way. Sometimes, itís unnoticeable and sometimes, it smacks you right across the face. Accepting the fact that people change and going with it, will stop you from finding yourself with a stranger. If you canít accept the changes that come from life, then sooner or later, you will find yourself needing to make a big change to get away from it.

# No one is perfect and that includes you

Itís easy to say that you wouldnít have done something, you wouldnít have acted in that way or you wouldnít have said what they said. Itís easy to judge other people from afar and criticize their choices, but you need to remember that you make bad choices sometimes too.

You are not perfect and you do things wrong, just like everybody else. And do you have anyone on your back about that? Itís unfair to expect anyone to be perfect all of the time and itís even more unfair to make them feel bad about it.

# Your partnerís friends were supporting them, long before you were

Itís really important that you try to get on with your partnerís friends. They were there long before you and have supported your partner through difficult times, and that means that they care. You donít even have to like them, you just need to get on with them for your partnerís sake.

You donít want to be that person who asks their partner to choose between you and their friends or family, because either way, you wonít like the result. Your partner will either pick their friends/family or they will resent you for making them choose.

# You donít have to be selfless but you do have to care

You shouldnít have to be selfless in a relationship, but you do have to care about your partner. Itís not a case of putting them first every time because you deserve to be put first sometimes too. Itís knowing when you should put them first. Knowing when it really matters will make the most difference to them because it shows that you care about them and in a way, it does make you selfless.

# Never expect anything from your partner

One thing that many partners do wrong is when they expect things from their partner, like somehow itís solely their partnerís responsibility to pay the bills or to bring a little romance into the relationship. Itís unfair and itís setting your partner up to fail.

A partnership is between two people and it should be both of their responsibilities to bring aspects to the relationship. This shouldnít be expected though, it should be done without question. To expect something, is just as bad as demanding it, because when you donít get it, you will be left looking like a spoilt child throwing a tantrum.

# Be supportive in the good times and the bad times

Itís easy to support your partner through the good times, like work promotions and goal achievements, it isnít always as easy to support them through the bad times though. Yet these are the times that they will really rely on your support, so you need to give it to them.

It doesnít matter if you are disappointed, the likelihood is that they will be ten times more disappointed than you. So just be supportive and help them through, donít kick them while they are down because they might not get back up again.

# Never go the day without at least a kiss

Itís so important in relationships, especially long term relationships to keep up physical intimacy. Sometimes, it can be easy to take your partner for granted and to forget why they are in your life, so always try to remind yourself of that. Keeping intimacy in your relationship will stop you both from getting bored or wondering if the relationship has run its course.

# If you want romance, bring it to the table

Donít moan about the fact that your relationship is lacking romance, do something about it. You never know, your partner might respond by doing something romantic in return. If you really want something, then you should go out there and get it, you shouldnít just wait around dropping hints. That will only get you frustrated if they donít work.