10 Signs You are in a Rebound Relationship

Most people rely on a rebound relationship to numb the pain of a break-up. While it’s true that such a relationship is advantageous in some situations, it goes toxic in most cases. The only time a rebound grows into something amazing is when both parties are aware of the relationship and are on the same page. Entering into rebound relationship is a way of using psychology to get over an ex flame. The sad thing is that you will be dragging your new boyfriend into your psychological baggage while making him believe you are for real. Sometimes you may not even admit that you are rebounding.

# You find yourself dating just anyone

If your ex dumped you or your past relationship was a bad experience, it is easier to get attracted to any guy who shows interest in you. Your psychology is in dire need to have an element of love again and that’s why you fall into another guy’s arms almost immediately. The problem is that you don’t take time to know this new guy because you are in a hurry to replace your ex.

# Your rebound relationship is moving too fast

As you settle into a rebound relationship, your breakup pain fades away. Your immediate need for emotional support is fulfilled. Nevertheless, when you are all alone, you don’t feel the connection and the emotional pain seems to linger in your heart. Every time you feel disconnected, you will be working hard to make things work with your rebound boyfriend. So, your new relationship will not take its natural course, but will be forced to move forward. So, if you feel that your new romance is escalating more quickly, it is a warning sign that you are rebounding.

# You are in love for absolutely no real reason

You barely know this guy well enough to even like him. He may be cute, lovable, and all you desire in a man but you start calling him ‘the one’ almost immediately after meeting him. These are the quickest signs that you are in a relationship, but that’s not real. It is only a week and you have already jumped headfirst into a hot romance. Who falls in love with a new person that fast? Unless you are dating the guy you were cheating on your ex with, in which case the relationship is more than a rebound.

# The intimacy is intense

This is the fun part about a rebound relationship. It begins with a heightened sexual chemistry between you and your new man. In a short time frame, you find yourself enjoying great intimacy in each other’s arms but you don’t know the direction of your relationship. It is a type of casual relationship focused more on romance as opposed to the serious element of true love. It is characterized by tons of intercourse because you want to use it as a means of distraction and feel connected to a new guy. As a rebounder, you claim to be “committed” to your new boyfriend, yet you don’t talk about serious issues - take this as a warning sign.

# You cannot recall how you got over your ex-boyfriend

If you truly love someone, you will take time to get over them (some girls take weeks, others months). Are you already happy with your new boyfriend and you can barely remember how you managed to forget your ex? This is a warning sign you are rebounding. The thing is you rushed into the arms of a new guy before the last phase of your old relationship came to an end. This is quite a risky move because something profound was left unfinished and it can show up anytime to haunt you during a challenging moment in your rebound relationship.

# Your friends find it shocking that you are dating again

You tell your friends that you have a new man in your life and they are perplexed. True friends are the best adjudicators when it comes to the choices you make concerning your love life. They can give you unbiased opinions about your old and new relationships. If you see them surprised, it is because you rushed things. They have spotted signs that you are rebounding and believe it or not, your new relationship is not real. Your friends know you better and sometimes they won’t say it to you that it’s too soon to begin a new relationship. Do not be angry at them, but rather thankful that they are giving you warning signs.

# You show signs of being moody

Do not be surprised if you experience mood swings. It is because your mind is confused, yet your new relationship seems happy. You will be excited whenever your new squeeze is around but depression and confusion sets in as soon as he leaves. The problem with you is that you refuse to admit that you were hurt in the past and try to mimic a brave behavior. Nonetheless, you will be having moments of weakness when you recall the past relationship. According to rebound relationship psychology, this is one of the signs of rebounding.

# You imagine scenarios involving your ex

If you fantasize going back to the old relationship, it means you have never gotten over him. Maybe you think of how your ex would react seeing you with a new boyfriend or keep wondering if he ever thinks about you. You can lie to yourself that you are over him but as long as the ex keeps popping in your thoughts, you are still in love with him.

# You show signs of weakness when your ex shows up

If you experience extreme emotions whenever you see your ex or if he says hello in a text, take it as one of the rebound relationship signs. No matter how hard you try to convince yourself that you are not happy, your heart tells you otherwise. The reason you feel sick or weak in an encounter with your ex is due to the feelings you still have for him.

# You don’t take your rebound boyfriend seriously

This is one of the biggest rebound relationship signs. Almost always, you feel that the relationship is nothing serious. You got into this relationship for other reasons but love and so you are only passing time. You may not know it but you are actually using your rebound boyfriend and it would be best if you let him know that he shouldn’t expect too much from you.