10 Signs Your Over-Analyzing is Pushing Your Partner Away

Relationships need work. That’s a fact. Anyone who walks into a romantic relationship armed only with the cloud at their feet and a pair of rose-tinted glasses will soon find themselves languishing in the doldrums of a thundercloud and wondering what on earth went wrong.

The problem is that when someone believes they’ve found their soul mate, they think they’ve found someone with the exact same psychological and emotional make up. But people and their inner workings are like fingerprints: no two are ever the same. So it’s good to take time out to analyze the relationship from time to time, to keep things on an even keel and make sure that plain sailing continues unabated

# They change conversation

If they try and put up a conversational block as soon as you start over-analyzing them, then that’s a certain sign that they’ve got fed up with it all. Knock it on the head now or things might deteriorate to the point of no going back.

# They change the channel

One step up on the escalation scale from the last sign, if they just ignore you altogether, then you’ve got a real struggle ahead of you to get anywhere near how things used to be.

# Standing in doorways

Do they always seem to be standing in doorways, about to move into another room? That could be because they’re anticipating another bout of over-analyzing and they’re putting themselves in a position to make their escape.

# Overtime

Have they suddenly started working late at work a lot? Well, this might not have been the case had you given them less of a hard time once they were home.

# Out of sight

An increase in prolonged and regular absences is also a sign that you’re pushing them away, preferring their friends’ or even their own company to someone who gives them the Freud treatment every time they sit down.

# Temper tantrums

Have they started snapping and getting unreasonably and untypically angered? Another sign that the division is increasing.

# Mirroring

Another classic sign of being over-analyzed is that they start doing it back to you – either directly reflecting your own questions if they want to be obvious, or subtler plays on your approach at other times when they are specifically trying to make a point about your behavior.

# Sexual under-drive

Has the bed suddenly become a place for sleeping only? That’s because they worry that the post-coital chat could end up turning into yet another bout of analysis/character assassination.

# Subjects of conversation

Quite simply, you no longer have any. Your over-analyzing has pushed you both so far apart that you no longer share any time or conversation. In effect, you have become strangers.

# The last laugh

The last laugh was some time ago, and definitely not the longest. When the humor has disappeared from a relationship, then all is not well.