Toxic relationships are created in two circumstances, when you enter a relationship with someone who’s completely incompatible with your way of life, or when you enter a relationship with someone who’s just a really bad person.
There are many kinds of toxic lovers, but they all find their way into one of these types of toxic relationships.
So if you ever feel like you’re trapped in a bad relationship with one of these types of lovers, look for the exit door, because no matter how much you think you can change the relationship for the better, you just can’t. Well, unless your lover makes a conscious effort to become a more accommodating person.
# Controlling relationships
Does your partner want to have a say in everything you do? Or do they like to know everything you’re doing, even if it means interrupting you aggressively to find out what you’re doing right that instant?
If you’re in a relationship where your partner behaves like the approver where everything you do has to pass through their scrutiny, you’re definitely in the middle of a toxic romance.
# Jealous partners
Is your partner overly jealous when it comes to you spending time with your friends? Or do they constantly feel like you’re sharing a certain sexual chemistry with someone even if you have a happy laugh while chatting over the phone? A bit of jealousy can be cute. But when it affects your life, it’s definitely not good for you.
# Bitchy lovers
Does your lover sit down with you and constantly nag about their bad days or whine about their problems until you feel like crawling under the couch or running away from them? Partners who find happiness only while complaining about their life can turn you into a negative person too.
# A negative thinking partner
A negative thinking partner is one of the worst of the lot. Does your partner think life is extremely unfair to them? Or do they only see the negative side to everything in their life? These kinds of partners will suck the happiness out of your life even before you realize it.
# Puts you down all the timeThis is the “I told you so” kind of partner. Instead of helping you out, they always look for a way to make you feel like a dumb, spoilt child. Perhaps, they have issues in life or they just love feeling powerful by putting you down all the time.
# Cheating partnerHave you caught your partner cheating on you once? And then again? Some partners just can’t stay committed to one relationship, and there’s nothing you can do about it. If a partner doesn’t respect you or think you’re important enough, they’re bound to cheat on you constantly.
# Lying loverSome lovers just can’t help but lie all the time. You may know they’re lying, but you can’t prove it, can you? When you’re in a toxic relationship like this, you’d end up feeling more insecure and frustrated, and may even feel paranoid about the whole relationship, while your partner laughs and lies away all the time.
# Abusive partner
An abusive partner doesn’t always have to abuse you physically. At times, even vocal abuses can have the same impact. If you partner raises a hand at you or threatens you with abuses for any reason, don’t put up with it. The more you stay in a toxic relationship like that, the more you’d make your partner feel dominant over you.
# The blaming loverAre you in a relationship with someone who constantly takes their frustrations out on you or blames you for their mistakes? You may think they’re acting childish, but your partner may genuinely think it’s your fault and may even get increasingly frustrated with you. The next time you get blamed for something you haven’t done, stand your ground. Or you’ll end up in a messy relationship where both of you hate each other.
# An extremely insecure partnerWhen you’re in a relationship with someone and are forced to spend most of your day away from them, a little bit of insecurity is inevitable, especially if you’re meeting good looking members of the opposite sex all the time.
But if your partner is extremely insecure and constantly needs tons of reassurance and proof of love from you, perhaps it’s time to have that talk. Or you’ll end up getting frustrated with your partner all the time.