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Your forever partner should be your other half. Right? All these things may sound easy, but finding the right person can be really complicated. Sure, some people meet the love of their life right away and are set for life. But, for the rest of us, finding a genuine partner takes time and a lot of it.
When you date someone, you think about how you get along and if your lifestyles align, and if you want the same things in the future. Are you just good as friends? Maybe there is physical chemistry, but not much more. Perhaps you’re a good match now, but how do you know if it will last?
Some people meet in high school and last until their golden years. Others meet their one and only in their fifties or sixties or even have more than one love of their life. But, no matter what your journey is, how do you know if you’ve met the right person?
# You’re willing to risk itWhen you’re with this person, you’re not scared to open up and be vulnerable. You want them to see the real you, even if it risks them not feeling the same way.
Now, this sign alone doesn’t mean you found the right one because love is a two-way street. But the fact you’re willing to put it on the line shows your true feelings.
# You don’t fear the relationshipIf someone is scared of committing to another person, odds are they don’t feel that person is really the one for them. But you don’t fear the relationship, and neither do they. Instead, you want to commit yourselves to each other.
# They don’t hold you backYou don’t want to have to carry your partner on your back throughout your life. This isn’t what a relationship is about. Your partner walks beside you, not behind or ahead of you. They don’t hold you back from doing what you love; instead, they push you forward.
# You fit into each other’s livesYou can imagine living your life with this person. They like your family and friends; you have similar interests and enjoy spending time together.
If you can visualize being together in the future, it shows that you fit together in each other’s lives. You want the same things and see your lives meshing for years to come.
# You don’t want to snoopYou don’t feel the need to snoop through your partner’s things or check who’s messaging them. Instead of being jealous or suspicious, you trust your partner and your relationship.
If you feel the need to check where they are and what they’re constantly doing, there’s distrust on your side. Why? You need to figure this out.
# They don’t want to change youYou are who you are. And, of course, there may be things about yourself you want to change, and that’s fine. But your partner didn’t come with a list of things they don’t like about you. They accept who you are, flaws and all. They may even see your flaws as cute little quirks.
# You feel safe and secureIf there’s one person who should make you feel safe, it’s your partner. If you don’t feel safe and secure around them, they’re not the person.
Trust is everything, and if you don’t trust them, you don’t have anything going for your relationship.
# You want to work on your relationshipTo be with this person, you want to put effort into the relationship. You want to build a future with them and be vulnerable around them.
No relationship is perfect, but if you’re wondering how to know if someone is right for you, ask yourself if you’re willing to work out the issues you have, to make things work. When they’re right, you’re willing to put in the effort and have the hard conversations to be the happiest you can be.
# They listen to youIf you’re upset or hurt when you express your feelings, they don’t dismiss you. Instead, they listen and talk to you about what happened.
A good partner is someone who shows genuine interest in your life and well-being. They actually want to know what’s going on in your life.
# You talk openly about sexWell, this is important. Most couples have sex, but very few can comfortably sit down and talk about sex. You want a partner you can talk to about sex and all aspects of it. They should be interested in how to please you and vice versa.
You should talk about what you want, what you like, and more specifically, what you don’t like.