Relationships are hard for everyone. Things get even harder when you decide to split and you’re left to figure out how to move on from a relationship by yourself. You’ll feel lonely, lost, and just not yourself for a while.
But you can get over it. The trick is finding a way to move on that’s healthy and doesn’t put you down a path of self-destruction. Many people going through a hard time end up finding coping mechanisms instead of helpful ways to move on.
# Let yourself feel it
There’s no use in hiding the pain away. Don’t try to bury it down deep because when you allow it to get that far down, it’ll just fester. You’ll end up feeling even worse in the long run. You need to let yourself feel the breakup. Live through the emotions and cry and scream and let it all out.
# Don’t go for a reboundIt’s tempting to want to let someone else take over instead of dealing with your own emotions. And as much as finding a rebound is recommended for a quick fix, it’s not exactly the healthiest option.
You’ll just have to deal with your emotions when that rebound is no longer there anyway. May as well not waste yours or their time.
# Talk to your friendsMore than likely, your friends have been through this too. They know how you feel and are probably your best source of support. They’ll be there for you and will want to make you feel better. Reach out to them and vent. Get all your feelings out so they can assist.
# Distance yourself from them completelyGet as far away from your ex as possible. It’s too difficult to learn how to move on from a relationship if they’re in your face all the time. The constant reminder will not only be painful, but it’ll also keep your feelings there a lot longer than they should be.
# Dive into your health physicallyWhen you’re upset and feeling bad mentally, working your body and feeling great physically can actually help. It has a lot to do with the distraction but the endorphins also work really well to put you in a good mood. You’ll move on a lot faster if you have other goals to focus on.
# Work on your mental healthYou need to care for yourself. Don’t just let your mind fill up with negativity. The more you let those thoughts fester, the worse you’ll feel. Think positively and focus on relaxing techniques that’ll help you get rid of negativity.
# See a therapist if necessaryNot all of us can work through our emotions alone. We need help. If you find that’s the case for you, see a therapist. There’s nothing wrong with seeking help professionally if you can’t get through it alone.
# Look for the good in your breakup
Every breakup has a positive side. Maybe things were toxic between the two of you. Maybe now you have more time to focus on your own needs. Think about the great things that can come from this and it’ll help you move on in a healthier way.
# Reflect on the good in your relationship
Just because you broke up doesn’t mean your relationship was all bad. There were great things. Focusing on remembering your relationship for the good will help you avoid slipping into a negative headspace.
# Recognize the problems you both hadYou need to admit what went wrong. In order to fully move on, you need that closure. Both parties probably did some wrong. Think back to what happened and recognize the problems in the relationship.
Not only will this help you move on, but it’ll also assist in a successful relationship down the road since you’ll know what mistakes not to repeat.