11 Rules To Follow For An Unbreakable Friendship

Your best friend is someone that you know you can count on for everything. Whether you've known them from childhood or you just recently developed a friendship because you instantly clicked, you consider yourself lucky to have them. So, how did you get to the point that this person went from friend to part of the family? Chances are, your friendship thrives because the two of you have some unspoken rules that you adhere to. While these rules can vary from friendship to friendship, there are some pretty standard ones that most friends follow whether they do it intentionally or not.

# Real friendships offer support to one another

A golden rule of any friendship is to be supportive of one another. If your best friend is nervous about the first day at her new job, give her a pep talk. It can something as little as saying, “you got this,” or you can go the extra mile and pepper the house with sticky notes containing words of encouragement. No matter what you do, your best friend will know that you will always be their biggest cheerleader and if they fail, you will always be there to pick them up off the floor.

# You both really listen to what the other is saying

So many people today are constantly distracted by their phones, TV shows or the magnitude of other things that seem to grab our attention. Rarely do people look up from these distractions and really focus on what someone is saying to them. This often results in miscommunication as well as the speaker feeling unfulfilled by the conversation because they can tell the other person wasn't that interested in what they were saying. As best friends, the two of you make an effort to be present when you are together by putting aside the daily distractions and really listening to every word being said. You know that when your best friend responds to you, it won't be with an uh huh or okay. It will be an honest and well thought out response that adds value to the conversation.

# You aren't judgmental with each other

The world can be a judgmental place, so every friendship should have a golden rule about showing you care without passing judgment onto your friend. Perhaps your friend went out to the bar and had a little too much fun, resulting in a night of drunken decisions. As their best friend, it is your duty to make them feel less embarrassed about their actions. It's okay to express concerns for the things that they are probably blaming on too much tequila, but don't try to make them feel any worse than the hangover and their own regret already has.

# You are always patient with one another

Are there little things your best friend does that make you feel like you might lose your patience at any given time? Are they the type of friend that needs you to tell them an event starts fifteen to thirty minutes earlier than it actually does so that there is a better chance that the will show up on time? Everyone has annoying habits but as best friends, you agree to be as patient as possible with one another. Besides, no one is perfect and you probably have your own annoying habits that your best friend puts up with, too. Either way, you both know if one of you is on the verge of a breakdown over those annoying habits, all you have to do is talk it out.

# You don't let mood swings ruin your friendship

One of the best things about having an unbreakable friendship is knowing that you can completely be yourself around your best friend. You don’t have to worry about them not being able to handle your wide range of emotions because they totally get you. If you have an intense mood swing that has you going from extremely hyper to feeling a little bummed out, they won’t make you feel silly or crazy because they understand you well enough to know what happened. Plus, if they were concerned about you, they wouldn’t hesitate to confront you.

# You always cheer each other up

Most people agree that a golden rule in any friendship is to never let each other wallow in self-pity or sadness. You both agree to be there for each other should something happen to upset one of you. Did she recently get dumped by her long-time boyfriend? Bring over some wine and a pint (or 4) of Ben & Jerry's, watch some of her favorite movies and find ways to help her through it. No matter what happens, the two of you will go to great lengths to make the other feel better!

# You never try to change one another

Being best friends probably happened because the two of you just clicked for one reason or another and it means that you accept each other for who you are. You've accepted her flaws and she has accepted yours, and you both agree that neither needs to change anything about who they are. Feeling accepted is an important part of a thriving friendship. If one of you doesn't feel like they can be themselves when you are together, there is a pretty good chance that your friendship won't last.

# You always have one another’s back

The beauty of having a best friend that you can rely on is knowing that they will always stand up for you if someone is trying to tear you down. They won't let anyone say terrible things behind your back and if someone tries to get in your face, your best friend will be right there in their face. You might not always agree with one another, but your respect each other's opinions and beliefs, so you will do whatever you can to help them achieve their goals and dreams.

# You both agree to try new things together

Having a best friend is like having an automatic travel buddy or explorer built into your friendship. You know that if your significant other or family member doesn't want to try something new with you, that you can always rely on your best friend to be up for an adventure. Maybe you want to visit a country you've never been to before, but your significant other doesn't want to take the time off work or can't afford to go. You know if you ask your best friend, they will start packing their bags and planning your trip immediately. Maybe you want to try Thai food for the first time but none of your other friends want to. All you have to do is call up your best friend because you know they are up for anything.

# You are always there for each other in times of crisis

The world can be a pretty relentless and scary place at times. Things happen that we are not prepared for whether it be a family emergency or the loss of your job. Being best friends means being there for one another in times of crises. Even if you haven't seen each other for a few months or haven't spoken for a while, you know that your best friend will drop everything to help you through whatever tough time the universe has bestowed upon you.

# You always make time for each other

Maintain your friendship by making an effort to see each other. You may have conflicting schedules but the key to a lasting friendship is making sure that you make an effort to spend time together and catch up on all the things going on in your life. Get together once every week or every other week to cook dinner together and discuss the changes in their day to day life, no matter how big or how small. If you are in a long distance friendship, a good rule to go by is to switch off visiting each other. Even if you can only make it happen once or twice a year, spending some time together face to face will have a positive impact on your friendship.