11 Signs Your Affair is Turning Into Love

If you’re currently having an affair, we’re not ones to judge. You know your reasons about how and what has happened, and you know your relationship. However, if you choose to embark upon an affair, whether married or coupled up with someone else, realize the risks of being caught out, and the damaging effects that occur when you start to experience the signs an affair is turning into love.

Sex and emotions, they all have a habit of kickstarting the “L” word process whether you want it to happen or not. You simply have no control over it. Of course, you have control over your actions, but denying your feelings isn’t something anyone finds easy.

You might have started out simply wanting comfort or to escape a difficult situation in your current relationship. Now you’re starting to wonder whether real feelings might have developed for this other person. Sometimes it can be the novelty factor, but other times it’s because love is starting to make an entrance.

# They’re on your mind all the time

When you start to fall for someone, no matter what the circumstances, you can’t get them off your mind. You feel butterflies when you think about them. In this situation, the butterflies are likely to be followed by a sense of guilt. That’s one of the clearest signs an affair is turning into love.

# You compare your partner and the other person

If you compare the two people in your life, you’re already in trouble. If love is blooming, you’ll start to find faults with your partner. This will push you closer to the other person, because you’re idealizing them in your head.

# You look to spend more time with them

At first you probably only saw the other person now and then, but if you’re actively trying to spend more time with them, you should question why. Is it because you’re starting to develop feelings? Wanting to be around the other person more, perhaps more than your partner, is one of the big signs an affair is turning into love.

# You start to make a real effort in how you look

It’s likely that you did this to a certain extent before, but if you find yourself trying to look your very best before seeing the other person, it’s probably because you’re keen to impress them. This could be a sign of impending love on the horizon.

# You’re not as close to your partner anymore

If you don’t talk to your partner as much, you aren’t as physically intimate anymore, and there seems to be a sizable gap opening up between you, it could be because you’re starting to develop feelings for the other person. In this case, stop and take a hard look at what is going on and whether it’s time to put the brakes on things.

# You start talking about your partner with the other person

Assuming the other person knows about your partner, you might start talking about them in not so flattering terms. For instance, you share details about an argument you had or talk abut their perceived flaws that you notice more and more. This is neither respectful or fair to your partner.

# You feel like they really “get” you

Be extremely wary of this, and this is by far one of the biggest signs your affair is turning into love. You probably turned to the other person because you felt you had things in common. If you feel like they really “get” you, perhaps more than your partner, then the affair has crossed over from physical. It is firmly in the emotional side of the camp.

# You begin to argue more with your partner

You notice that you’re starting to argue more with your partner because you’re thinking about the other person. This also links back to the comparisons point we made earlier. You might start resenting your partner for keeping you away from the other person and that’s sure to start upsetting arguments.

# You contact them more and more

You probably had certain times when you spoke at the start of the affair. Now you notice that texts and emails ping back and forth at different times. Probably because the person is on your mind far more than before. You can’t help but want to talk to them. This is a huge development because it means emotions are becoming very attached.

# You find it hard to focus

Remember the feeling when you first started to fall in love with your partner? You lost your appetite, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t stop thinking about them, nor concentrate on anything other than the next time you could see them. If you notice that once more, it’s one of the huge signs an affair is turning into love.

# You start to think about the future

Uh-oh! Trouble is on the horizon here. An affair isn’t meant to be long-term or have a future. If you start to picture a future with this person, then your current relationship is almost dead in the water. This means that you’re seriously becoming attached to the other person. You’re on the brink of falling in love.