Everyone goes through periods in their lives when their relationship isn’t exactly perfect. Some go through this more than others, and it can often feel as if the love is gone altogether with no hope of returning.
But there is good news for those of you who feel like this is a reality. Love can always be found in a relationship if people are willing to look for it again. If you choose to accept that love is truly lost, then it will be. The first thing to remember is that if you want it back, you can get it back.
Unfortunately, not all of us know how to do this. We might be in a situation where we feel as though the love is gone – permanently. If that sounds like you – which I’m assuming it is since you’ve found your way here – you can get it back.
Here are all the different ways you can get the love back in your relationship and spark those feelings that you had from the very start. It won’t happen overnight, but by implementing these practices into your daily life, you’ll start to feel that love rekindle.
# ApologizeThe very first step to getting back the love if you’ve lost it is to apologize for that. Go to your partner and tell them how sorry you are for the way things have ended up. You’ll see them start to open up after this.
# Take responsibilityWhen you’re apologizing, take responsibility for what has happened. Explain that you don’t know how you let it get this out of hand, but you’re ready to make things right again.
Even if you think it’s all their fault, the truth is that it takes two people for love to be lost, and you’re just recognizing that you know you were at least partially responsible. Do this and then you can start to get the love back again.
# Work to solve any outstanding issues
If there are any issues that may have been the cause of you two losing the love, you have to fix it. If there’s anything you did or they did, you have to get to the bottom of it, and repair the damage before you can hope to get it back when the love is gone.
# Talk to them all the timeLike I mentioned in the introduction, communication is key to keeping a relationship happy and healthy. You have to talk to them about your day, your problems, and most importantly, you have to listen to what they tell you, too. If you do this daily, your love will start to come back into the relationship.
# Show your appreciation dailyIf your significant other doesn’t feel appreciated, then the love is gone. You can’t feel love for someone who doesn’t appreciate you at all.
Show them in little ways that you appreciate how much they do for you. Simply saying thank you after they make a big dinner, and offering to do the dishes as your part, is enough.
# Surprise them
Surprise them with little gifts and fun dates! Don’t let them think that you no longer value their happiness. Even slipping a cute love note in their lunch for work and surprising them in this way can do wonders to get the love back in your life.
# Find something thrilling to do togetherWhen the love is gone in your relationship, it can be hard to get excited enough to do anything together. In order to get it back, you’ll have to find something new, exciting, and thrilling to do with them.
Take them on a skydiving date, to an amusement park, or do anything that gets your adrenaline pumping. It’ll help them realize that you’re the exciting person they fell in love w
# Take them on regular date nightsYou need to make time for them and JUST them. This requires regularly scheduled date nights that will help you to reconnect with them in ways that I’m assuming you no longer do.
# Remember why you fell in love to begin withThink back to when you were just crushing on them without them even knowing about it. How did you feel? Why did you feel that way? Remembering these emotions can help put them in perspective for you, and you’ll be able to bring that love back easily.
# Relive your first dateActually plan a date night that is exactly like your first date. Take them to the same place, have the same movie playing with the same snacks you ate if you can remember and show them that you want to start your love new again.
# Get your sex life back on trackSex is a huge part of a healthy and happy relationship. If you don’t have a healthy sex life, you lose that connection with them and then the love is gone.
To get it back, start initiating intimate moments, and put their pleasure above your own. Doing this is a great way to bring that spark and liveliness back to the love you once had.