What makes a conversation pleasant, and what makes it a bore? When it comes to first dates, there’s nothing that will impress your date better than the first few minutes of charming conversation. So, knowing the perfect first date conversation starters can make or break your first date, and more often than not, you may not even realize it.
You see, it all comes down to first impressions.If someone forms a bad first impression of you, it’s pretty hard for you to change it.However, if you make a positive first impression, you’re starting off on the very best footing possible. That’s why it’s vital that you hone your conversation skills, and help to impress the pants off the person you have your eye on.
Impressing a date takes more than just words. The way you behave and treat the person you’re with on a date can play a big part too.Use these easy ways to better your conversation and you’ll definitely leave your date feeling warm and happy.
# Start the date wellPick a date spot that both of you would like, and make sure you arrive on time.
Be warm and courteous while talking, and make sure you address your date by their name a few times within the first ten minutes to make the date feel more personal.
# Smile, but make sure it’s genuineSmiling is a great way to cut the awkwardness of the first date. Smile often, and your date will feel more relaxed and comfortable around you immediately.
# Be sure you actually like your dateIf you’re eager to meet your date or are excited to see them, make sure it shows. Feel positive about the date, and the person you’re meeting will feel positive around you too.
Remember, positive energy always attracts positive energy.
# In a first date conversation, always remember your mannersTreat your date with respect and remember to be courteous and kind during the date. It’s completely acceptable to goof up or slip up once in a while, just as long as you shrug the accident off with a laugh instead of appearing nervous or awkward.
In fact, a silly slip up can actually make the evening more fun and memorable.
# Have a few things to talk about in your mindDuring the
first conversation, avoid asking about their past relationships or their
future life plans. The two of you aren’t dating yet, so asking
questions that are too personal too early into the date can make you
appear nosy or intrusive.
Ask the right questions though, and your date will open up to you and may even fall for you before the end of the date.
# Flatter, but only in moderationBe generous with your compliments. When you appreciate the effort your date took to dress up and look good for you, they’d warm up better towards you. But always learn to be genuine about compliments, without going overboard or overly personal.
# Use positive words
Be positive when you meet your date and use positive words during the date. Look around the restaurant and tell your date what you like about the place, or tell your date how glad you are to spend time with them.
When you see the positive side in everything around you, your optimism will make you seem more attractive.
# Find some common ground in your first date conversation
While conversing with your date, try to find something both of you like or dislike within the first fifteen minutes. Bitch about something both of you hate, or talk excitedly about something both of you love.
Finding the passionate common ground will help both of you realize just how common both your likes and dislikes are.
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Be a little tactile, but make sure it’s appropriate
Place your hand on the table and lean towards your date almost all throughout the date. It’s a subtle sign that you’re trying to come closer to them. If your date likes you back, they too may lean forward while talking to you.
Unless your date leans in or tries to get closer to you, avoid reaching out and touching them unnecessarily. But if your date does lean in towards you now and then, place your palm on their palm occasionally while trying to emphasize a point. It’s the perfect way to start the game of touchy flirting.
# Make regular eye contact
If you’re having a great time with your date, you can’t help but open your eyes wide with excitement. While speaking with your date, hold a strong gaze now and then, look deeply into their eyes and nod casually when they say something.
It shows that you’re completely focused on them, and aren’t distracted during the date. Of course, don’t do it too often or you may look creepy with your piercing, glazed eyes!
# Be mindful of your body languageBe aware of your body when you’re sitting across the table or next to your date. Don’t fidget or rock your body forward and backward, and don’t nod your head forever like you’ve got a spring for your neck.
Sit back comfortably and move gracefully, be it while stepping away from the table or while reaching across the table.
# Make your mind up!Indecisiveness is a definite turn off for everyone. It may be cute now and then, but on a first date, taking too long to order food, deciding the wine, or contemplating aloud about what to order for several minutes is a definite sign of annoyance.