13 Clearest Signs You are in a Relationship of Convenience

When you’re really in love, it feels like you’re floating on air. Truthfully, you never really know what someone else’s intentions truly are. You might be in a relationship with someone who tells you that they love you, but how do you know they really do? Is it possible to be in a relationship of convenience and not know it?

I don’t wish to make you paranoid here, trust me, that’s the last thing I want, but I’m just pointing out that for some, a relationship of convenience is what your partner needs at this point in their life. For you, however, it could be the real deal.

There are many different types of relationships that fall under this umbrella category. A relationship of convenience can be for a legal issue, e.g. when someone needs to marry a citizen of a certain country to stay there. *I’m not advocating that’s right, I’m simply pointing out it happens!*

# You have a gut feeling that something isn’t quite right

Listen to your gut, it will never steer you too far wrong! If you just have a feeling that they’re after something other than love, you have a right to be suspicious.

# They’re not there for you when you need them

A partner who genuinely cares will be there for you when you need them. However, if your partner never is, you have to wonder why.

# You haven’t been introduced to their family and friends

There are many reasons why you might not have been introduced to their nearest and dearest yet, but if it’s been a while and nothing is changing, it could be a sign of a relationship of convenience.

# They don’t seem to connect with you completely

When someone doesn’t care completely and they’re in the relationship for something else, they’re never going to totally ‘click’ with you. You’ll feel it.

# The relationship is on and off

Many relationships have hiccups but you don’t tend to notice other signs along the way. If you can nod along to a few other signs and this one too, that’s a pretty strong pointer towards a relationship of convenience.

# You don’t really talk about the future

This type of relationship doesn’t really have a future and if it does, it won’t be real. If neither of you talks about the months and years to come, is it because you can’t see them happening?

# They’re not that interested in what you have to say/what you think

If your partner doesn’t really care about your opinions, feelings, or thoughts, is it because they’re not really that invested for the right reasons?

# Your relationship doesn’t really go anywhere

Relationships all move at different speeds but if yours doesn’t seem to be going anywhere at all, will it ever get moving?

# There is a distinct lack of passion

When there is no emotional connection, the passion isn’t alive and well. In that case, what is the point in staying?

# You basically live separate lives

Couples grow together. It doesn’t mean they’re always by each other’s sides, but there is a certain amount of togetherness. If you’re living separate lives, it’s probably because it’s a relationship of convenience.

# You’re often left cold

In a relationship of convenience, one partner is likely to be left cold much of the time. That could be emotionally or sexually. How fulfiled do you feel?

# People have questioned your relationship before

Okay, people talk and it doesn’t always mean anything, but if more than one person has mentioned that they think you’re being used, you have to take it seriously.