Everyone feels insecure from time to time. Though, for some, insecurities start to get the better of them. Then, we have to consider how to deal with insecurity.
While we all have ‘my bum looks so big in this’ days, or days where we think ‘what am I doing?’ or just feel overwhelmed with everything going on in our lives or uncertain and unsure, there are instances where insecurities become too much. They begin to really interfere with what we want to do.
Before you can do anything to help address how to deal with insecurity, you need to understand what your insecurities are. Insecurities can be about many things. Here are some of the most common signs:
# Comparing yourself to othersIf you are always comparing yourself to others and always find you fall short, you’ll perpetually feel insecure and bad about yourself. All people are different. You are good at some things that others are not. Try to have your own goals and find your own path. It doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing.
# Feeling unworthyInsecure people often feel worthless. They feel as though they don’t deserve good things to happen to them.
# Feeling like your luck will changeDo you always feel slightly on edge? Like at any minute your luck will change? This signals your insecurities are getting the better of you.
# Feeling like an imposterImposter syndrome is a common trait of those suffering with insecurity. You get that job promotion, you land that great deal, you are asked to head up a project—whatever it is. You feel as though someone made a mistake and you are an imposter just waiting to be found out.
# Feeling hopelessIf you let your insecurities get the better of you, you often feel rather hopeless, like you are in a dark tunnel and can’t see a way out.
# Feeling like you’ll never be good enough
If you feel as though whatever you do, however much you achieve, you’ll always let yourself and others down. Find a way to get to the root cause of the problem.
# Feeling overwhelmed by tasks or events
If you are asked to do something or gearing up for a big event, do you feel totally overwhelmed? Your insecurities could be standing in the way of your confidence.
# Not wanting to socialize
Would you rather just stay in at home alone than go out and be with other people? This can be a confidence issue, or rather lack of, to overcome.
# Hating the way you look
Do you loathe the way you look? Are you always self-critical about your appearance? Sometimes people find they have crippling insecurities about the way they look and this has a huge impact on their lives.
# Getting upset over little thingsIf you find yourself bursting into tears or frustrated over little things, this could be your insecurities rearing their ugly head.
# Not being able to talk to anyone about itDo you feel as though you can’t express yourself properly? If you shut yourself away, things only get worse.
# Talking too muchDo you find all you talk about is how insecure you are, how fat you feel, how nervous you are, how pathetic you are? This is incredibly self-destructive and needs to stop.
# Losing friendsAre you losing friends over your insecurities? If so, you need to learn to deal with insecurity.
# Recognizing most of your thoughts are focused on this one thingAre you obsessed with your insecurities? Do you find it hard to think about or focus on anything else?