15 Signs You Have a Controlling Partner

You may think your boyfriend loves you a lot. But is it love or is it his way of controlling you? Check these subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend.

Does your boyfriend care about you?

Is he protective of you and helpful with decisions all the time?

Is he deeply in love with you?

Does he help you live a better life?

Or is he just controlling you?

Thereís a thin line between a loving boyfriend and a controlling boyfriend.

And almost always, youíll never really know the difference. Now all of us try to control our partners subtly, especially when we feel like theyíre drifting or moving in a different direction.

But unknowingly, this subtle urge to help our partner lead a better life could turn into a dangerous obsession for all the wrong reasons.

You may think your boyfriend loves you, but when you really think about it, you may realize that youíre being controlled by an unintentional deceptive schemer.

* He puts you down

He puts you down when you do something by yourself and makes it look like you canít do anything without his help. He picks flaws in anything you do, and helps you do a better job. He disrespects you and anything you do, and makes it seem like you need him to become a better person. This will eventually make you lose your own confidence, and wait for his reassurance and help each time you try something new.

* He doesnít like it when you go out with your friends

Does he say your friends are a bad influence or does he think one of your guy friends are hitting on you? He starts to choose your friends and tells you whom to hang out with. Eventually youíd find yourself losing touch with most of your friends.

* Heís insecure and doubts you

He plays mind games and tries to trap you with tricky, unnecessary questions. He tries confusing you into giving him contradictory answers which makes you feel like you are the bad person in the relationship.

* He wants to know everything about you

He hates secrets. He tells you all his passwords and secrets, and expects you to do the same, be it your email, twitter or facebook account. He wants to know every single detail of your daily life, and when he finds out that you havenít told him a few things, he acts pained and hurt.

* He stalks you

He wants you to keep in touch with him very often, and he wants to be informed about everything youíre doing even if youíre just stepping out of office for a coffee break with your friends.

* He doesnít like it when you have fun without him

This is rather simple and easy to see. If you go out with your own friends for a night out, he sulks or acts grumpy for a while and makes up another excuse about why heís pissed off. Sometimes, he may even blame you for his mood and use an excuse like ìyou didnít call me enoughîù or ìyou ignored meî.

* He cripples you

He looks for any excuse to prove a point. If something offends or bothers him, heíll wait for a perfect excuse to bring that conversation up and prove his point. If your friend gets into a car crash, he may gloat about it and make it a point to tell you why he doesnít like you travelling with that guy. He loves saying ìI told you soîù and makes you feel lost without his guidance in life.

* Heís jealous

This can seem cute at first, but over time, his jealousy could turn into an obsession that borders on insanity.

* You canít do anything important without him

When you achieve something without his help, he treats it like itís no big deal. He behaves like your promotions and personal achievements are not big milestones in your life. On the other hand, heíll consider you leaving your friends for him a bigger achievement that can help the relationship.

* Heís never at fault

But you always are. Even if he meets with an accident on the way to work, he blames it on someone else or the big fight both of you had that morning. But if you make a mistake, heíll make sure he constantly reminds you about the incident over and over again.

* He has different principles for you and him

He doesnít like it when you hang out with a few of your friends. But when he meets his own friends, even the ones you dislike, he makes it seem like youíre the one misunderstanding his friends. He creates his own rules for himself, and imposes different rules on you.

* He takes decisions in your life

He may seem like a chivalrous knight whoís always there to help you make up your mind, but very soon youíd see that heíd actually be the one manipulating you and making all the decisions for you. And even if you do make a decision yourself, he picks flaws in it and shows you how wrong you are even if you know youíre right.

* He breaks down when you take a stand

This is a sick trait of an emotionally controlling boyfriend, but itís one thatíll always show up when you take a stand. Whenever you take a stand or refuse to listen to him, he may argue with you. But when he canít get it his way, he may break down and cry about how you donít understand him anymore. What happens eventually is that youíd end up giving in for his happiness.

* You lose your freedom

You find yourself asking for his permission to do anything. You assume heís the best thing thatís happened in your life. All of a sudden, youíre convinced that heís your personal god and the one whoís always right.

* You no longer know what you want

Your whole life revolves around him. He makes you believe that heís the one who can make you happy and no one else. And surprisingly, youíd start believing it too. His happiness becomes yours, his wants are your wants, and his likes become your likes. Your whole world will start to revolve around him, and nothing else.