Is there anything worse than feeling like nothing you do makes a difference to those around you? Many people find happiness in making others feel happy.
But when you look around and see that you have done nothing for yourself, and everything for everyone else, yet no one seems to notice, it all seems like a waste. If you are feeling unappreciated, these quotes make you see you’re not alone.
A relationship is supposed to be about give and take, but if all you feel is taken for granted, that is not healthy for anyone involved. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to examine your union, your feelings, and to move on.
# “Some people aren’t loyal to you… they are loyal to their need of you… once their needs change, so does their loyalty.” If someone is only loyal to you because they want something from you, that means you are interchangeable. You should be with someone who wants you because you are unique, one of a kind, and the love of their life.
# “Just remember when you’re ignoring her, you’re teaching her to live without you.” When you first feel ignored, it is not unlikely to become the crazy girlfriend, screaming, starting fights, basically doing anything to be heard.
If you have gotten to the point where you are past that stage and really have nothing at all to say, you begin to see you can stand just fine on your own. So do so!
# “My low self-esteem does not get better by you telling me I’m pretty.” The charmer in your life waits until you have had enough. Then the bone he throws you is “you are beautiful,” or says something about your physical appearance.
We all yearn to be loved for who we are on the inside, not the out. If that is all he can say when you are emotionally naked in front of him, then he really doesn’t get it or you at all. It may be time to move along.
# “It would be too easy to say that I feel invisible, instead, I feel painfully visible and entirely ignored.” Being invisible makes you feel like you could disappear, and he would just replace you without skipping a beat.
# “You need to stop doing things for someone when you find its expected rather than appreciated.” Often those extra things we do in our relationships to make someone happy turn into the norm and what is expected. Don’t be fooled into believing that all the nice things you do are merely what anyone would. You are special.
# “Resentment is an early warning signal for needed change.” Resentment only grows. If you can’t nip it in the bud, it is like cancer and eats away at your self-worth and your feelings toward your significant other.
# “My only regret is that I didn’t tell enough people to f*ck off.” Learning to say no, telling people to f*ck off, or not caring about what people think is a very hard emotional place to get to. If you get there, however, it is one of the most liberating ways to live a happy and more well-adjusted life.
# “Don’t forget a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.” – H. Jackson Brown. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. If he says he doesn’t care about how you feel about him, he lies. Try treating him with the same disinterest and see how well he handles it.
# “It’s simple, women only nag when they feel unappreciated.” Why do women nag? I rarely hear them nag outside of a relationship. If we didn’t feel so responsible for everyone and everything in our vicinity, we wouldn’t feel the need to make sure everyone was okay and doing what they need for their own good. You nag because you have to say it 20 times to be heard instead of just once.
# “No text? I understand. No calls? I understand. No time for me? I understand. But when you see me with someone else, I hope you understand.” If a guy is treating you like you are an accessory in his life, someday he will have to find a new ascot.
# “Staying in a situation where you’re unappreciated isn’t called loyalty. It’s called breaking your own heart.” Sometimes the hardest thing to do in any relationship is to know when to walk away.
Feeling unappreciated is difficult because there are no concrete reasons, just emotions. Staying out of some commitment or loyalty that you promised before you knew things would get as bad as they are isn’t doing anything but allowing yourself heartbreak and him not to be the best him possible.
# “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou. If you stay past the point where you are being taken for granted, unfortunately, you have no one to blame but yourself. It takes strength to leave a situation, but you have to love yourself more than the love you have for the person mistreating you.
# “Let me refresh your memory a bit. I was the one who listened to your problems. I was the one who took your bullshit. I was the one who actually cared about you. I was the one who stuck around even when everyone told me to leave. I was the one who stood up for you. I was the one who loved you even when you gave me every reason not to. Lastly, I was the one who was there for you when no one else was.”
Don’t ever give of yourself more than you would ask anyone for yourself, especially if it goes unnoticed or falls on deaf ears.
# “A girl doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t need her.” You may think he is the love of your life, and you need him. But if all he is doing is dragging you down and making you feel lonely, the only thing you need him for is to make yourself unhappy. That, you can do all on your own.
# “One of the hardest parts of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder.” If you have tried everything and it isn’t working, stop trying. It isn’t working.