12 Ways To Help You Control Your Temptation in Relationship

Struggling with a temptation that could ruin your relationship now? Are you afraid that you might end up cheating on your partner/spouse?

Being in love with your partner or spouse is not a guarantee that you would be faithful to him/her. There are some people in-love who get caught in momentary lapses which could result in emotional damages and broken relationships.

If you want to find out how to resist the temptation that can threaten your relationship, here are 12 sensible ways to do it.

* Be aware of your temptations

The very first thing you need to do is acknowledge your vulnerability. Being aware of your temptations will help you to be more watchful of your behaviors, decisions, and thoughts.

* Tell your partner about your weakness

Surely, your spouse or partner understands that you are not perfect. S/he will appreciate your openness.

Giving him/her a head’s up of your weakness is a sign that you want to fight it off. Also, your partner can help you overcome temptations by checking on you.

* Find an accountability partner

It is also advisable that you find an accountability partner, aside from your beloved. It should be someone from the same sex who is mature and trustworthy. The role of your accountability partner is to check on you, rebuke you when needed, and pray for you.

* Get counseling

If you keep on failing in this area, then seeking professional help can also be a good idea. You can go to a spiritual mentor or find a psychologist.

* Think about how it will affect your relationship

What if you gave in? Have you ever thought about what could happen if your spouse or partner found out? Are you willing to risk your relationship for momentary pleasure?

Even if you get forgiven, it would be hard to restore your partner’s trust.

* Ask yourself if your partner deserves it

Yes, there is a chance that your partner might never discover your affair. However, do you really think s/he deserves to be cheated on?

Your partner or spouse may not be perfect, but s/he could be so devoted to you and is trying to be the best for you.

* Avoid friends who encourage you to cheat

If you have friends who think to be able to cheat is cool, then stay away from them. True friends will help you protect your relationship or marriage.

As the saying goes, “Bad company corrupts good character”. Therefore, choose your friends wisely.

* Cut or limit ties with those you are attracted to

You may think you are not doing anything bad yet but fantasizing of someone else is already cheating. Also, if you know you are attracted to someone and you intentionally find ways to keep in touch or be together, then you are in trouble.

To avoid this, flee from the temptation. Limit your communication or being around the person. Or, if there is no point in staying in contact with him/her, just cut off the connection.

* Stay away from places where you should not be

What are those places you should stay away from? They are the areas you do not want your partner to know about. For instance, avoid going to private places where you could be alone with someone else from the opposite sex.

* Develop transparency in your relationship

Another way to keep yourself from temptations is by keeping transparency in your relationship. Being transparent includes giving each other access to your accounts and gadgets.

Some people do not like this idea since this invades their privacy. Nevertheless, the temptation is lesser knowing your partner can find out.

* Turn your thoughts to something else

If your mind keeps being haunted by tempting thoughts, then distract yourself. Think about something positive or productive. Or think about how you love your spouse or partner.

You can also make yourself busy with work or a hobby.

* Be honest with your partner

If you are tempted to cheat right now, it is best if you open up with your partner. Admit it, the more you repress something, the more it presses on you. Once you open up, you would realize that it was only a passing urge because the thrill is gone.

Yes, s/he might become upset once you open up. However, it could be worse if you tell him/her after you fail. Besides, s/he deserves to know the truth.