When you’re in a relationship with someone for a while, it’s normal for the heat to fade away. However, when that happens, it’s also very easy for one or both partners to feel less appreciated, less wanted, and perhaps even less loved. The bottom line is that as humans, we need words of affirmation occasionally.
We need to be told that we’ve loved and that we’re wanted. It perks you up, makes you feel good, and helps to cement the bond between you. Of course, if there’s just one partner doing the affirming and the other sits happily there and taking it, that’s no good either! Words of affirmation need to be given and received in equal measures.
Not sure what to say and how to start using words of affirmation? Let’s check out some examples you can start to use.
# I love you. This is the ultimate one when it comes to words of affirmation. Telling someone you love them, if you genuinely do, is the single best thing you can say, and it will truly make their day.
# I’m so proud of you. Everyone wants someone to feel proud of them and when that person is your partner, it doubles the feeling. Tell your partner that you’re proud of them and wait for their smile.
# You push me to do better/you make me a better person. When someone tells you that you make them want to be better, it’s like your hard work is paying off. This is a wonderful thing to say to your partner and one of the most special words of affirmation.
# I really appreciate what you do for me. Everyone wants a ‘thank you’ occasionally and this is an upgraded version of just that. If your partner does a certain thing for you, tell them how much you appreciate it.
# I couldn’t do this without you. Supporting your partner is one of the most important things you can do in a relationship, so when your partner tells you that they couldn’t do all of this without you, it makes you feel strong and invincible.
# You look so beautiful. Who doesn’t want to be told they’re beautiful by the person they care about the most? Make sure you make eye contact when you’re saying it to add true authenticity.
# I love how you always try your best. This is another way of saying that you appreciate what someone does for you. Tell your partner one of the things you find most attractive about them is how hard they try.
# I really value how hard you work for us. Another way of showing gratitude – you can never show enough! Sometimes we become complacent and just take whatever someone regularly gives to us, especially in a relationship. These words of affirmation make sure that your partner knows it’s all worthwhile and you truly appreciate it.
# I feel so lucky to be with you. Being told that the other person feels lucky to you have you in their life is a wonderful feeling. It shows that you’re truly loved and appreciated.
# You make me feel safe and happy. We all want the best for our partner and that means we want them to feel loved, happy, and safe. When your partner tells you this, it gives you that warm glow, telling you that you’re doing well.
# I love it when you smile. A smile is a disarming thing which can change how someone feels. It’s also the most beautiful part of someone. Tell your partner that you love their smile and wait for it to appear!
# What did I do before you came into my life? Again, this is affirmation that they’re key to your happiness and that you love the fact that they’ve graced you with their presence. It’s a wonderful thing to say and goes well with “I love you”.
# I love how you make me laugh. When you make someone laugh, it makes you feel good. When your partner tells you that they love how you make them laugh, the feel-good factor is doubled.
# You’re so funny! Everyone wants to be funny and as long as this is
said in the right way, e.g., without sarcasm, it’s a great compliment to
receive.
# I love the life we have together. This statement
tells your partner that you are happy where you are with them and that
they can feel safe and secure in the relationship. What could be better
than that?
# You work so hard, you really inspire me. Again,
these words of affirmation are a nod towards gratitude, pride, and
admiration. These are things that everyone wants to hear more of.
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You’re my special one. What could be better than that? You’re special,
your partner recognizes it, and you’re the single best person in their
life. That’s going to make you smile, for sure!
# I’m always here
if you need anything. Knowing that your partner is always there for you
and has your back is a secure and wonderful feeling. This helps you to
go through your life and do what you need to do, safe in the knowledge
that you’re never alone.
# I love your genuine kindness.
Kindness is a trait which is often overlooked these days. When someone
you care about points out how much they love this trait, it helps you to
feel warm and fuzzy inside.
# Just seeing you makes my day
better. To know that your presence has made someone happy and uplifted
is a great feeling! To be told is even better.