While dating is lots of fun, it also requires your time, effort, and energy. If you are like most people, you feel a little nervous every time you go on a date. You spend time getting ready, picking your outfit, and so on, but no doubt you start to panic a little about whether or not it will go well. It’s important to also think about things to talk about on a first date to calm your nerves.
Small talk is awkward. But it’s important because the right kind of small talk can make us feel at ease instantly. You can’t throw questions at your date one after the other, and assume everything will just easier as the date progresses.
Just relax, say hello, give them a hug, and sit down. Smile, and remember a few perfect questions. Just keeping a few of the things to talk about we’ve got here will make everything way smoother. And you’ll be able to calm your nerves and start to feel relaxed real soon too.
# How was your day? The very first question you MUST ask! A simple question, but it shows you are friendly and that you care. It’s an easy one for them to answer and breaks the ice.
# Where are you from originally?
Finding out where they are from as well as the different places they lived throughout their life is great for getting to know someone. You might find you lived in some of the same places. If not, remember to ask, ‘what was that like?’ to keep the conversation flowing.
# How big is your family? Find out what their family life is like, whether they have any brothers or sisters, and if they like having a big/small family.
# What were you like as a kid? Were they naughty and rebellious or super sweet? Finding out what they were like as a kid and their school days brings up fun memories and stories.
# What do you do for a living? People talk about their jobs for hours. Find out what they do now as well as jobs they had in the past.
# Do you like it? Finding out whether they like their role and why/why not can be the start of an interesting conversation.
# What would your dream job be? Find out what they are most passionate about, what they’d love to do, and whether they are working towards actually achieving it.
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What did you study at school/college/university? Talking about your school and university days is always interesting. Talk about what you studied as well as friends, silly nights out, clubs you joined and the experience overall.
# Do you have any pets? People love to talk about their pets if they have them. Their answer might also be a deal breaker for you!
# Do you like animals? If you are an animal lover and they are not, it’s best to find this out ASAP!
# What kind of music are you into? For people that know their music, this can be a particularly fruitful topic of conversation to bring up. You can talk about your favorite bands and artists, gigs you’ve been to, festivals attended, and so on. It gives you a good idea as to whether your tastes are compatible. Plus, ideas for future dates!
# What would your perfect date be? Find out what they like and don’t like about the dating game. Funny stories of previous dates are also a bonus.
# Where have you traveled? Sharing travel stories is another juicy topic of conversation. You can talk about the places you’ve both visited, what you loved, and where you’d like to explore next.
# Where would your dream holiday be? Are they a sun and beach worshipper or do they love something more active? Talk about your best and worst holidays and where you’d like to go in the future.
# What hobbies do you have?
Finding out about their interests is so important. They might have some pretty cool hobbies which could lead to all sorts of weird and wonderful conversations.
# What’s your favorite book? Are they much of a reader? If you love literature, talking about books is a great conversation topic.
# What’s your favorite movie? Finding out what movies they love is also fun. If you like the same sort of thing you can suggest a future movie date together.
# What’s your death row meal? This is an interesting question and weeds out whether they are an adventurous foodie or not!
# What three things would you take with you on a desert island? Find out what’s most important to them with this classic date question!
# If you would have one wish what would it be? This is always an interesting question to ask. People give wildly different answers. Some want fame and fortune, others are more philanthropic and selfless. What are you and your date thinking?