Deciding which role to fulfill is a real tough call for the modern guy in the dating arena. On the one hand, weíre told that all women love the alpha male, the bad boy, and the serial womanizer, yet when we act that way, weíre given a slap and told to shove off. On the other hand, magazines like to tell us that we have to be open to a softer, more considerate, more feminine approach, only to be told to ìman upîù and laughed off in disgrace.
Well, if you want to attract the woman who is right for you, then the answer is simple: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. Acting a part is just going to deceive, in addition to mismatching you both.
# What are the top five things on your bucket list? A great question not only to try and work out the inner self of your partner, but also a chance to maybe try and facilitate her dreams. After all, what could show your sensitive side better than that?
# What are you most afraid of? Fear is a powerful emotion, and by asking this question, you have the opportunity to sympathize and empathize with her, as well as help her through her fears.
# Are you an affectionate person?
Asking this question shows that you are keen to respond to her needs. It also gives you a chance to show that you are a lover of affectionóif that is, indeed, the case.
# If thereís anything you could have done differently, what would it be? Regret is one of the most negative emotions, and by asking her this, you may be airing something she didnít really want toÖ but it gives you a chance to talk her through it and show what an emotionally supportive rock you are. Support is an attractive, unusual trait in a male.
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Whatís your favoriteÖ? Food, place to go on holiday, perfumeÖ etc. Itís an off the cuff kind of question, but whereas most guys would forget the answer in a heartbeat, youíll be storing it up to surprise her on her next birthday, or other gift-giving occasion.
# Whatís your most special memory? This question shows that you embrace all of who she is, even her past before you met her, and that you want to share her precious moments. This shows true emotional strength and a real sensitive side.
# Whatís your greatest passion? Listening is a skill that most men donít have. By asking her about her passion, even the most tight-lipped lady is likely to speak at length, giving you the opportunity to show just how strong your listening skills are.
# What advice would you give your younger self? This question gives you rare insight into her personality, as well as showing your ability to assess and discuss deeply emotional subjects.
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What would you do if you won the lottery? Her answer is important, or course, but so is your responseóespecially if youíre the sort who would contribute it all to charity, rather than buy a tropical island!
# If I ever did anything to hurt you, you would tell me, wouldnít you? Women do not expect this level of sensitivity and emotional openness from a guy and theyíll find it hugely refreshing.
# What are you most proud of? Similar to number 7, this gives her a chance to express herself, and for someone else to take noticeÖ a winner in the sensitivity stakes.
# Do you need some space?
For the more in-depth and, perhaps, intense relationship, expressing this level of understanding and flexibility is likely to make you a saint in her eyes. And it could well save the whole thing.
# Where do you see yourself in 5 years? This shows a true willingness to listen to and empathize with her aims and ambitions, but also subtly hints at the fact that you want to be part of her future. Sheís bound to love that.
# Would you tell me if you were ever attracted to someone else?
Again, emotional honesty is a rare trait in a guy, and expressing this honesty without ire or accusation shows true strength of character and a very real sensitive side.
# If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Find this out and then tell her, in so many ways, why you couldnít possibly agree with her.
# Can you tell me if Iím doing it how you like it? Weíre getting a bit physical now, but sex is an important part of a relationship. Showing that you are sensitive to her needs is highly likely to increase your appeal.
# What did you want to do when you were a kid? You want to know everything about herópast, present, and future. Thatís what this question tells her: her every moment matters to you.
# How many people have you ever truly loved?
Discussing love can be very difficultóeven for some women. For a guy to come out with this question, and to honestly reply with his own answer, shows a sensitive side that few can boast of.
# Do you want to try something new? Whether youíre talking about the places you eat, the usual places you go on holiday, or sexual positions, this question shows that you are responsive and sensitive to her needs.
# If you could change anything about me, what would it be? What could better expose your sensitive side than an obvious willingness to change in order to remain in the life of the one you love?