4 Major Reasons of Low Intimacy in Marriages

There’s an old piece of advice that used to be given to newlyweds: During your first year of marriage, put a penny in a jar each time you have sex. In subsequent years, take a penny OUT of the jar each time you have sex. You’ll never empty the jar.Most couples in the early stages of their relationship find that they can’t keep their hands off each other. And many couples in long-term relationships report that they have less sex as the years go by. As long as both partners are fine with the rate and quality of sex they are having, this isn’t an issue. But when the frequency (or lack) of lovemaking becomes problematic, it is important to look for the causes.

* Parenting

Many couples cannot imagine life without them. But usually, when your children are with you, your attention is on them. The energy required to tend to your little ones results in two tired parents who see their bed not as a place to cuddle and reconnect, but a place where they can finally shut their eyes and recharge their batteries without having to interact with another human being, large or small.

* Daily Routine

In the early days of your relationship, everything was new and novel. Your husband’s stories were fascinating and his jokes hilarious.Y our lovemaking was about discovering new pleasure zones. Now things are different. You know each other well enough to finish each other’s sentences. Lovemaking has fallen into a rut. You can predict his next move. There are no more zones to be discovered. You feel comfortable together, sure. But also a little bored in the bedroom.

* Aging

Aging is inevitable and that can mean a reduced libido as we grow older. This has a biochemical basis and is not the fault of the relationship. Many medications, including blood pressure pills, antidepressants, and heart medicine, can make orgasm impossible. Post-menopausal women’s drop in estrogen means intercourse may be painful if attempted without artificial lubricant. Older men will experience erectile issues and may have to rely on a pill such as Viagra to have successful intercourse.

* Unexpressed resentment

If your marriage is undergoing some challenges and you have resentment that is not being worked out, this can have a detrimental effect on your sex life. It is difficult to feel loving and close to someone towards whom you have building, unexpressed resentment.