Our sexist culture unleashes many forms of toxic socialization on its inhabitants, but few lessons seem to take as well as teaching girls from the cradle to coddle the male ego, not just with flattery but with a deep unwillingness to speak truths that could cause men to feel uncomfortable or imperfect. there’s a number of things women are thinking about sex that tend to go unsaid, but you men should probably know them anyway.
1. Porn Sex
Most sex in porn is about what’s good for the camera, not what’s good for the participants in it, especially the women. In fact, many things that look good in porn can keep us from having fun in real-life sex. For instance, in porn the only parts of their bodies the actors often touch are their genitals, so that the camera can get a full view of the action. But in real life, sex is more of a whole-body experience, and the genital-only thing can feel cold and masturbatory.
2. Legs Over Head
This modification of the missionary position is anything but vanilla: With her legs thrown back over her head, your partner is totally exposed and flaunting her flexibility—which can be a turn-on for both of you.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
While you’re taking in the glorious view, your partner may be freaking out: Does my butt look dimply? Do I have back fat? Is he getting bored? With reverse cowgirl, there’s a lack of connectedness.
4. Position 69
In theory, 69 is the ideal position for oral sex: You’re simultaneously giving and receiving - which makes a normally solo act a mutual one. But anyone who’s tried it knows that the execution is tricky. There is so much to focus on.
5. G-Spot
Stimulating her G-spot can open up a whole new world of pleasure or embarrassment. Women are afraid they’re going to pee. his may, in part, be due to unrealistic expectations about female ejaculation. Women think it’s supposed to be a waterfall. But, really, the amount varies from dribbling to squirting.