Just Married? So, you might be all set to start your new life. The life with a special someone. The new life is about new relations and new phases of life, And one among those is intimacy with your partner. Getting intimate with your partner is important as well as healthy. But before that you must read some facts about that-
* Have boundaries set around your immediate or nuclear family. Have individual, couples & family time built into your routine and redefined lines of connection with each spouse's family of origin. This means you have clear boundaries around how much time you spend with your parents/extended family and your spouses parents/extended family. Your couple's relationship and family must be the first priority.
* Touch each other often. Have a good connection around non-sexual physical touching, hand holding, kissing hello & goodbye, laying together, sitting on the couch next to each other. Establish a routine to kiss hello when arriving home and goodbye in the morning when parting for the day.
* Say I love you to one another. Hearing this is reassuring about the way your partner feels about your relationship. It's a small gesture that can keep your connection alive. Call each other during the day to say it if you miss your chance in the morning.
* Have regular physical intimacy dates. Having an ongoing sexual relationship in your marriage is important. Couple in their 20's average relations 2-4 times a week, couples in their 30's twice per week, 40's & 50's once to twice per week. Pay attention to the frequency so as you aren't being sexual less than twice per month and slipping into a routine that doesn't give priority to connecting in a physical way. Maintaining your physical connection gives your marriage staying power and protects it from the stresses of life. Create time either spontaneously or planned, to follow through with regular sex and intimacy. Your sexual relationship should be a tension reducer, not a tension producer.
* Compliment your partner in front of other people. Not only is it a nice thing to do, it helps your partner feel a deep sense of attachment to you as well as builds their self-esteem. It's also good modeling for your children to see you being complementary to one another.