Dating is fun. You get to meet someone new and you get to have fun. At times, a new date may be great, and at other times, it doesn’t always work out. You may know how to get a date, talk on a date and behave on a date. But do you really know how to end a date the right way? If it’s the first date, the stakes are higher. Learning how to end a first date is key to bagging the second.
There are so many things to consider while you’re on a date, but it all comes down to knowing how it properly, be it good, bad or ughh.
# Don’t pick up or get picked upYes, chivalry rules but not until you both say hello – face to face.
Let’s face it. Not all dates are going to end in wedding bells or sexy carpet burns. At times, you may have to end a date way before bedtime, especially if it sucks.
Can you imagine having to drive an hour out of your way just to drop your date after you got dumped midway through dinner? Awkward!
Play it safe, carry your condoms and drive your own car.
# Stay in one place or make plans ahead
When you’re both meeting each other for the first date, have a mutual understanding on how to end the date. Meet each other for pastries and sundaes or get bold and have a long dinner.
But if you’re planning to have drinks at the Drunken Clam and then dinner at Moe’s, make it clear to your date and discuss it. A good ten or twenty minutes into the date, talk about any other hopeful places to go or other plans for the evening and let your date be aware of it.
It’s always reassuring to know the date itinerary, instead of experiencing a suspense movie. It only adds to the anxiety.
# Make a suggestionWant to know how to end a date in the best way? One of the perfect, never-failing ways to end a date is to make a suggestion, especially if you’re a guy. As you’re coming close to the bottom end of the meal or shake, suggest something new and wait for the answer.
“Would you like to have a cup of coffee at this really nice place on 63rd street?”
“I’m having such a wonderful time with you. Could I have the pleasure of enjoying your company for just a bit longer? There’s this little sundae bar that I’d love to take you to…”
Awww… you’re now a smooth talker, aren’t you?
If your date’s having a nice time, they’d agree. If your date’s running late, they’d suggest another time. Either ways, you get to end the date by being charming at the same time.
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Read their body languageThere are ways to figure out if your date wants to end a date without staring down south. Amidst the intensely happy or sad conversation both of you are having, do you ever find that your date’s shuffling their legs uneasily or looking at their watch now and then? If your date’s feeling restless or staring at the door like they’re hypnotized, perhaps it’s time to end the date.
On the other hand, if both of you are cooing into each other’s ears or inching your palms or hands closer to each other for a bit of flirty touches, you should definitely suggest hanging out longer or going to some other place for a bit of fun.
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Don’t push your dateYou may be having a wonderful time, or you may never have gotten luckier on a blind date set up by your annoying friend, but no matter how much fun you’re having, a date is a two-sided experience. To figure out how to end a date, you need to look for the signs or use the cues mentioned earlier. But you should never push your luck, even if it seems flirty.
If your date suggests ending it, learn to end it gracefully. If there is going to be a second date, good for you, if not, well, get your act better the next time.