5 Reasons Why Its Ok To Have Intimacy on The First Date

First dates can be strange. If you’re like most people, you’ll be nervous and excited at the same time. You might have met this person once before, or it could be a blind date, internet date, or someone you know through mutual friends.

No matter who they are, it’s not surprising if you feel a bit anxious before you head out to meet them for a first date. First dates usually involve meeting for drinks or dinner, and it’s generally recommended that you don’t get entirely too drunk. But if you do find yourself several large white wines later, getting on like a house on fire, and flirting like there is no tomorrow, you’ll no doubt be wondering what’s going to happen when the date draws to a close.

Now, we are certainly not saying that you SHOULD have sex on a first date. Everyone is different, and some people like to take things slowly. The point is, however, that there is no reason why you shouldn’t if you both want to.

# The other person won’t think less of you, and you shouldn’t think less of yourself

Forget those antiquated views where you have to wait a certain amount of dates before you even so much as kiss someone. If you’re both mutually consenting adults, then you should think of sex as a fun activity that is perfectly natural and can bring people closer together.

The problem is that even in our wonderfully contemporary society, we are still consumed with the concern that we’ll be thought less of if we go all the way on a first date. This view is old fashioned, though, and while it’s fair to say that this is mainly a worry that affects women, it can be true for both genders.

The fact is that if the other person is respectful, nice, and intelligent *and why are you having sex with them if they’re not?* then they won’t think any less of you if you both decide that it’s the right time to engage in a little fun.

# You’ll make them want you even more

Okay, so we get that making someone wait for sex can lead to an awesome build-up, but having sex on the first date can make the other person want to see you again even more in the opposite way.

Think about it, you’ve just shared an intimate, fun, and pleasurable experience together. You’ve let the other person see you naked and, hopefully, did things to them that brought them some serious sexual satisfaction. So why wouldn’t they want to see you again so you can get busy again as soon as is humanly possible?

# It makes you relax on your second date

If, on your first date, the flirting and chemistry was spot on, then having sex that night means that you can chill out more the next time you meet.

Sexual tension can be fun, but it can also heighten the nervousness, making you do and say things that you don’t mean, or even make you drink too much and blow it because all you can think about is getting down and dirty with the other person.

The longer you leave it, the more pressure you’ll feel, and you’ll start to doubt yourself. If you become emotionally invested before you’ve had sex, you can worry that it will all go seriously downhill when you actually decide to do it. And that kind of anxiety will only make it more likely that your fears will come true.

# If it feels right, then it probably is

If you have chemistry with another person, then just go with it. Enforcing these strange rules on yourselves isn’t going to help anyone. You can go on one date or ten, but if the chemistry is there from the get-go, then why wait?

# Your date probably wants to have sex

Let’s face it, when you go on a date, you are probably already thinking about the possibility of having sex with that person before you even arrive.

The fact is that sex is great. Most people want to have sex—they enjoy it. So instead of making it this strange rule about when it’s acceptable, just listen to each other to decide when is the right time for you both.