You might wonder why it is that men care so much about sex. Or why is sex so important to men? Women have wondered for years why this always proves to be one of the most important aspects of any relationship. Though sex matters to women at first, when they get comfortable in a relationship or when there are other things going on in the dynamic, then sex is often the first thing to go. This will NEVER happen for a man, and there are deeper reasons to this than you might expect. There are a multitude of reasons why sex in a marriage is so important to men, and why it always will be.
Though sex may be just another chore for women, this will never be the case for men. This is how men see that the relationship is alive and strong, and when that is missing he starts to panic. He needs sex to ensure that you are happy together and that you are both getting what you need out of the relationship with one another. Sex matters to men in any relationship, and now you can understand exactly why that is understanding the importance of sex can really ensure that you keep this as a priority to show him that you love him and care about your relationship!
* Sex is the way men connectIf you want to know how men think about sex in a relationship, then think of it as the one thing that keeps you connected. No matter what else is going on or how far apart you may feel at times, sex is what unites you. It shows him that you make him a priority and that you will always care about how he feels.
* Sex is a way to stay closeEven if you have a fight, you may use sex to reiterate that connection. In his mind, you are showing that you are close to one another when you are physical with one another. This is your connection, this is your bond, and this is how you show that you love each other. Sure words are nice, but this very physical act helps him to see that things are good and that you are happy with one another.
* The male ego is often tied to sexA man’s ego can be very fragile. And most often, it is tied to sex since that is what motivates him, keeps him going. It is so important for him to please his woman and if she dismisses bedroom problems constantly, then he may take it very personally. If you have intimacy issues, talk about it (in a manner that won’t hurt his ego) with him. Men do appreciate honesty as well.
* Men see sex as a celebrationMen wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to sex. On the long list of our priorities, sex should not be on the bottom rung.” says Dr. Schaefer. Men want women to make sex a priority. Sure, in a marriage, there could be loads of other important tasks and decisions to be made on a daily basis. But, for the health and longevity of the relationship, sex must always be prioritized. And if you consciously do that, think of the other benefits: sex alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure, promotes healing and bonding.
* Men love fantasiesMen want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them,” says Dr. Kort. Encourage your man to speak his heart out to you. Why stick to the same old routine day after day? Ask him what excites him and then go with the flow. You can even reveal your own fantasies with him and open yourself to these possibilities.