Is any any specific time to get married? Do you have enough savings before you walk down the aisle? Do you really to date your partner before getting married to them? You may expect these questions, and there is no right or wrong answers to these questions.
Everyone has a different reason to get married.For some starting a family is priority. While others may want to take their relationship to next level. And for others, they feel that marriage is just something you need to do at a certain age.
Whether the reasons above fit in with your views of what marriage is all about or not, you have to realize that it’s a huge step that shouldn’t be taken lightly. So no matter how many times you see wedding photos on your newsfeed or how often you see wedding DIYs on Pinterest, don’t let the pressure to marry get to you!
# How are your finances?
No matter how cynical it sounds, you have to understand that money still matters a lot. Your spending habits will affect your partner’s and vice versa. If you both have your financial game down pat, then you’re off the hook. But if you’re struggling with your finances because of an unstable job, dismal spending habits, or accumulated debts, it may be a good idea to wait until you’ve resolved a majority of your financial issues first.
# What’s the status of your relationship?
Unlike the myth, marriage isn’t the goal. Marriage is the beginning of a new chapter, one with intensified versions of your current issues. For instance, if you’re having trouble trusting your partner now, it won’t get miraculously better with marriage.
It’s crucial to reach that point in the relationship with minimal strain, if any at all, and then get married. Think of it as a transition wherein the problems of the dating phase are over, so it’s time to focus on those that arise during marriage.
# Can you stand to live with each other? So many couples get married without moving in first or at least, spending several nights together. In serious relationships, if you spend the night, you’ll be doing more than just having sex. You’ll be spending time with your partner, relaxing, seeing how they behave at 4am, seeing how messy they are, etc.
Spending two or three days straight with them, day and night, or flat out moving in allows you to see all their habits, so you can get an idea of what they might be like when they’re in the comfort of their home. This is actually very important because although you may think their habits are cute now, imagine dealing with them every single day for the rest of your life.
# What’s going on in your respective careers? If you have a stable job that you see yourself keeping in the foreseeable future, then this wouldn’t be an issue. However, if either of you are still on a rocky career path, then this will definitely affect your marriage. Employment shifts or slumps will affect not only you, but your partner as well, because they’ll be the one to pick up the slack when you find yourself struggling to find a job.
Aside from this, you may also be at that point in your life where you’re not sure what you want in life. Working on your marriage may not give you ample time to truly find out what your calling is, and that’s why it’s best to postpone the wedding bells until you’re more secure in your current career path.
# Do you know yourself? Here’s another one that totally depends on the person. Do you really know who you are, and what you’re all about? We’re not talking about your favorite color or your music preferences, we’re talking who you are in the face of turmoil, success, and everything in between. Anyone can be smart, but wisdom, how you use that intelligence, comes with age. The point here is that unless you’re completely OK with who you are as a person, and you truly know yourself, you may end up putting your partner through a lot of growing pains.