5 Sneaky Tips To Make Them Say I Love You First

When you and your partner dance around the words “I love you” but never really say them, it seems that you and your partner have reached the dreaded block in your relationship.

If you’ve reached this stage where you know you love your partner, but you don’t feel like saying “I love you” first, you need to remember that you *and perhaps, your partner too* are probably being immature and egoistic.

In all probability, this may even be an ego tussle or a power game in the relationship, which isn’t good.

It’s a weird ego game to play, but if you know that you love your partner and they love you, and the only thing that’s stopping either of you from saying “I love you” first is the awkwardness of it all, then perhaps, it’s time to get a bit sneaky!

Discover how to get them to confess their feelings for you with a bit of elegance and a splash of science. And hopefully then, both of you can get past this immature stage and move on to something more real.

# Limit the words “like” and other L-words

As your partner stares into your eyes, he says, “I really, really like you.” You can playfully brush them off and say, “Oh, that’s nice. I really like pepperoni pizza.” Then, with a suggestive wink, you can let them know that “like” is a word that doesn’t have a lot of meaning. So you’re making fun of it by saying it should only be used for things that are simple and easy to say.

It’s possible that they’ll figure out that you want them to use a word that’s a little more heartfelt. Like, ahem, “love,” don’t you think?

# Make them spill the beans with your sexy moves!

“I love you!” is what anyone will say after having a great time in the bedroom. If you want your partner to say it out, use amazing sex in your favor!

It will send them so high up on cloud nine that not only will they drop some L-bombs but they’ll also promise to do more housework, agree never to leave the toilet seat up again, and pay more attention to you during Sunday Night Football. Yes, sex does have that effect!

But here’s something to remember. Saying “I love you” during or immediately after sex can be insulting, because it shows they need an orgasm to express their love. But if you already know they love you, and you love them, it’s acceptable to use sex as an excuse to overcome the awkwardness of saying “I love you” for the first time.

Once it’s out, both of you would feel a lot more comfortable saying “I love you” to each other thereon.

# A slip of the lips follows self-disclosure

There’s something very appealing about open, honest, and transparent people. When someone we care about is willing to share personal information with us, it makes us more likely to share our feelings.

So, to get them to say the L-word, tell them something personal and secretive about yourself that will give them a complete picture of who you are.

You can talk about your fears, worries, and how you’ve had to deal with things in the past. It would help if you also talked about things that will stimulate their mind and tickle their brain.

Then, over a glass of wine, look into their eyes and ask what makes them tick or what happiness means to them. You’ll get them to say “I love you” sooner than you think if you dig through their heart, mind, and soul.

# Hypnotize them while they’re asleep

This is a weird trick that apparently works. According to neuroscientists at Northwestern University in Chicago, humans can learn new things while they sleep! Several other studies suggest that you can even pick up a new language while you’re dozing. As they sleep, why not nudge them to eventually spill the beans by planting a minor “bug” in his ear?

Wait until your partner is alseep, and whisper sweet nothings into their ear, like, “I will communicate my emotions to [insert your name].” We know this sounds crazy but hey, they’ll definitely get the hint with this, right?

What’s the worst that can happen? They immediately wake up and hear you say “I love you!” It’s a win-win however you see it! They’d realize you were feeling shy to say it, and they may even find it cute.

# Saturate their mind with symbols of love

When they’re with you, flood their head with images and sounds that inspire feelings of affection. To attract their interest, wear a shade of red on a date. Play a romantic comedy like Love Actually, or Crazy, Stupid, Love playing in the background. You can try the same with music as well.

If your partner asks you something, use words like “I’d love to!” or “I’d be happy to!” to stress on the L-word. Take them to places where they can relive their happiest moments. Make a heart-shaped serving dish for them when they come over to eat.

Finally, show them how much you love them by meeting their unmet emotional needs. Having their favorite fast-food order ready for them at the dinner table after a hard day at work may be a great way to show them how much they mean to you. These are all ways to connect yourself to the feelings of love. They’ll be saying “I love you” in no time flat!