Whenever we speak of intimacy, the first thing that comes into people's minds is sex. I don't know about you, but the last time I had intimate sex was… hell, I can't even remember.
Sex can be intimate, but more often than not it isn't. Intimacy is closeness, and although we certainly get physically close during sex, mentally we can be miles apart.
True intimacy relies on knowledge - on knowing people just as well, if not better, than they know themselves. It's not difficult for men to become more intimate with their women.
Not as difficult as one might think… but you are going to have to make the effort. Here are a few things you'll want to try:
# Appreciate her beautyThere is no shortage of men who are willing to compliment women on a daily basis. The difference between them and you, however, is that when you tell the woman you love that she's beautiful, it isn't with ulterior motives.You don't tell a thousand women whatever they want to hear just to sleep with them. You are telling the woman you love that, in that moment, she is the most beautiful thing you've ever seen.
When a woman knows you find her so positively stunning - inside and out -she'll never have to worry about you straying or your feelings faltering. Trust is the most intimate thing two people can share.
# Love LettersThere's plenty that can be said without words, but every woman wants to hear how much you love her. Give her a physical thing that she can go back and reference whenever she misses you or feels uncertain of your love, and she'll feel much more secure and happier.
You don't have to be a good writer to write a good love letter. Just put into words the best you can, why she means the world to you. Don't type it; write it by hand so that when she looks at the words, she feels that it's you who wrote them.
# Travel TogetherOne of the best ways to become more intimate with your lover, to get to know and understand her more deeply, is to take a long trip together. Not just a weekend two weeks minimum.
Intimacy is all about getting close to the other, and there is no better way to understand a woman better than to throw yourselves into an irregular or uncommon situation.
# Take Care of HerIf you want to become more intimate with your partner, then you are going to have to accept her, not only at her best, but also at her worst. I'm sorry ladies, but no woman or man for that matter looks good when she's coughing up a lung.
When your woman is sick, she is quite literally at her most vulnerable. Think about the way you feel and act when you physically feel horrible. I'd bet my life that you aren't the jolly, pleasant person you usually are.
# Cuddle SleepIt's easy to share a bed with a woman, whether you love her or not. The harder part is not making a move when the beautiful woman next to you says she isn't ready or she isn't in the mood.
Embracing a woman tenderly with no intention of taking it further means your feelings extend past the normal libidinal urges you suffer from. Cuddling a woman because you love her means needing to be close to her because it makes you happy.