When it comes to understanding how to win a guy over, we’ve been brainwashed into doing all the wrong things. Firstly, trying to convince someone you’re worthy of their affection is hard to do. You aren’t giving them your dating resume or offering up all the ways you can make them happy.
Sure, you want to put your best foot forward, but it can feel disingenuous to promote yourself like that. Learning how to win a guy over isn’t actually about competition or winning. It is about being yourself and being confident in that.
# Show up
I don’t mean show up at his place of work or his house. But, “randomly” bumping into him at his favorite coffee shop might rekindle that initial spark you felt. Sure, it may feel like you’re taking a risk by going out of your way to maybe bump into him, but what’s the worst that could happen? He doesn’t show up?
Having more than one chance encounter could be just what he needs to give him that nudge to ask you out.
# Let out your weird side
If you really want to win a guy over, don’t be on your best behavior. You don’t have to be poised and polite constantly. Let out your true weird self. Share your bizarre talent or tell an embarrassing story.
Again, I know it can feel vulnerable to let someone into that side of yourself, but that is what leaves an impression.
# Talk to a mutual friendLet a mutual friend know you’re interested. This isn’t grade school so you aren’t telling this friend so that they can find out if he is interested in you, but rather so they can organize another get-together. ??This will give you a more upfront and surefire way to see him again and catch his eye.
# Make the first move
If the subtle flirting isn’t making a big enough impact, just make a move yourself. Ask him out. Again, the worst that could happen is that he says no and you move on.
Some guys are really struck by a woman confident enough to put herself out there. Others may not have even realized you were interested until you actually blurt it out.
# Know when to move on
If after about three times interacting with him, he still isn’t getting the idea, it may be time to move on. Either he isn’t interested or he is really that clueless and that is okay. You can’t get every guy to like you.