When to say ‘I love you’ for the first time seems to plague everyone in a new and happy relationship. You have an urge to tell your new partner you love them but don’t know exactly when to do it.
Should you wait a certain amount of time? Is it too soon? Should you plan a whole date around it? Can you just blurt it out?These are things we all think about when we are in a new relationship. Saying ‘I love you’ is a vulnerable thing. You want to make sure you don’t do it too soon. You want to make sure it is special.
But, how do you know exactly when to say ‘I love you’ for the first time in a new relationship? As long as you avoid these three avenues of no-nos, you should be good to go. I know you are probably still nervous. Honestly, so am I.
I am in a new relationship right now and am bursting at the seams wanting to say ‘I love you.’ But, like most of you, I am scared.
# Have you felt it on more than one occasion? In a new relationship, there may be moments of love. They could do something sweet for you and you may have a passing moment where you feel you are in love with them. That is great. But, if you only felt it once it may have been a fluke.
If you notice as you spend time with them that you want to say ‘I love you’ at different moments for different reasons, you may be ready. At this point, you know that you feel and can say it.
# Is the feeling steady? A lot of new relationships aren’t stable. You may feel like you’re in love one moment and in a passionate and dysfunctional fight the next. Passion and chemistry are often confused for love.
Just because you have a lot of attraction and intensity doesn’t necessarily mean you are in love. You could be in lust. If you feel love even in moments when you disagree or are doing something mundane, it is likely love.
# Do you feel it when they aren’t around? When you think of your partner when they aren’t around and not only miss them, but feel yourself wanting to text them ‘I love you,’ it is almost for sure the real thing.
Just feeling in love when you are with them may not actually be love but attraction or even just a lot of like.
# Are you prepared for your partner not to say it back? This is a big one. I hate to put a seed of doubt in your mind because there is a great chance this won’t even happen, but if you aren’t ready for this possibility, you may not be ready at all.
# Do they treat you with love? We put such pressure on the words, ‘I love you,’ but it isn’t always the words that matter the most. Not everyone is an all-star at communicating their feelings. Your partner may be better at showing their love for you than actually saying it.