So you wondering how to start dating? While dating can be nerve-wracking for even the most seasoned veterans, it’s especially anxiety-riddled for the newbies (or those who’ve been out of the game for a while). However, never fear! Dating can also be fun and exciting, and even more so when you have a plan of action that will help make you feel confident and calm, and your best self.
One of the most important things to know when you’re thinking about how to start dating is that there is no right and wrong. You can tailor your dating life to your preferences and you get to decide when you’re ready, want to take a step back and how you want it to fit in your life. Here’s our guide to covering the basics when you’re thinking about getting started, be it for the first time or getting back out there after a break.
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Be Clear About What You Want When you think about dating, what do you think about? Do you just want to dip your toes in the dating pool and have some flirty fun? Are you looking for a hookup? Or are you interested in a committed relationship? Being clear with what you’re seeking on the dating scene will help narrow the field and allow you and potential dates to be on the same page.
# Who Will Make You Feel Like Your Best Self?
Finding your perfect match isn’t about seeking someone who looks like Leonardo DiCaprio or Ariana Grande. It also isn’t about money or what they do for a living. When it comes to compatibility and what makes a relationship thrive, you want to look for a person who embodies the qualities that makes you feel connected and inspired, and who essentially brings out the best in you.
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Are You Ready to Date?Warning: Dating can be a minefield of emotional triggers. If you haven’t healed from past relationships or any type of traumatic experience prior to dating, then it’s likely you’ll be confronted with some potentially painful memories that could interfere with the development of a new connection.
Be real with yourself: are you feeling good about meeting new people? Do you feel like you’re equipped to handle intimacy and a healthy dose of vulnerability?
# Tell Everyone You Know!Of course, creating a dating profile is an excellent way to meet people, but don’t underestimate the power of your community. When you’re looking for a potential partner, you don’t want to remain quiet about it. You never know who knows someone else who’s also single and ready to mingle!
# Join New Activities That Interest You
Meeting someone who has similar interests is not only a great way to break the ice, but it’s also an easy way to connect with someone. After all, you already know you have something in common! Who knows? Your future love could be on your co-ed soccer team or at a cooking class! Focus on what you love to do, and you never know who you might bump into.