When it comes to long-distance relationships, people Google far and wide for tips on how to handle the pressure. Because, if you've ever tried one, you know it's not easy. Can long-distance relationships work, really? And if so, how can you make a long-distance relationship work?
Look, we're not going to sugar-coat it for you; long distance is tough. You miss your partner, might often feel lonely and don't have anyone to join you as a plus one on game night with your friends.While long distance isn't always easy, you can definitely make it happen if you're willing to put in the work. This goes both ways; both partners need to be willing to commit to making it happen.
How you ask? Here are some of the best tips on making a long-distance relationship last for the long-haul.
* Be clear about the boundaries of your relationshipTo start, you need to be crystal clear about the rules and boundaries within your relationship. Monogamy should not be assumed but stated and understood. If you leave anything ambiguous, this will lead to issues down the road. If you're open and/or dating and you're allowed to date or be intimate with other people, set clear guidelines as to what this looks like. What is allowed? Flirting? Kissing? Oral sex? Penetration? Whatever works for you is great, but you need to communicate and understand the limits. These conversations aren't easy, but they're necessary if you want the relationship to thrive.
* Create a daily ritualThere are so many factors that keep long-distance couples from feeling connected. You're not a part of each other's daily activities and that can feel isolating. I often suggest that my clients bookend their days with something that feels intimate and connecting for them both. This could be anything you want. For some couples, it may be a FaceTime or Skype chat before work and right before bed. For others, it might be a photo in the morning and at night. It's a simple reminder that your partner is there for you and is thinking of you. It gives you a sense of control in the relationship that is somewhat difficult to tether.
* Get creative with sexting and video chattingRichmond says that getting creative with your virtual chatting is especially important in long-distance relationships because you don't have the same face-to-face intimacy on a daily basis.When taking sexy photos, try different places around the house to change it up. Create mystery with lingerie or make your partner guess where you are, as you send a sexy pic from a restaurant bathroom, for example.
* Get sex toys in on the mixSex toys are a fantastic way to spice up long-distance relationships. Ordering each other a sex toy the other might like and then using them together on Skype or FaceTime. This can help create a sense of closeness when you're far away.
* Don't tune out the outside worldWhile your relationship is important, it's also crucial that you continue to live your life. Don't spend all day long with your head down, eyes stuck to your phone screen. Keeping up communication is needed, but if you let it completely envelop you, you could end up losing yourself.