It is normal to get jealous in love, but jealousy should never be shoved aside or pushed under the carpet. The only way to overcome jealousy in a relationship is by confronting it and overcoming it.
At times, you may be the one who’s feeling jealous, or at times, your partner may be the one going green in their head. The best way to help each other is through effective communication and understanding. Here are a few steps you should always keep in mind.
# Listen to each other, really! Your partner may be trying to say something to you, so pay attention. Most of the times, when jealousy sets in, all your lover wants you to do is pay attention to them, and show them you still care.
If you want to keep your partner happy and have a healthy relationship, then both of you should be ready to listen to each other and hear what each of you have to say. Try to empathize and read your partner’s mind and their actions when they feel ignored, and give them enough attention if they’re feeling alone while you’re texting someone else.
# Communicate and understandIf you’re jealous with your partner about something, then just tell them about it. You may sulk, give them the silent treatment, and make the day worse for the both of you.
Instead of plotting in your mind, just say what’s on your mind and you can work things out faster and have more time to spend in happiness, than in misery. And if your partner wants to tell you something, don’t walk away in a mad rage even if you’re convinced it makes no sense to you.
Remember, what seems like nonsense to you could mean a lot to your partner when they are hurt and crave for your reassurance.
# Read the signsMost of the times, even if your partner is hurt or feeling low, they may not tell you they’re feeling jealous about something you did because it’s embarassing. So look out for signs that suggest they’re feeling insecure about something you’ve done.
Sit down and talk to them. Coax your partner into saying what’s on their mind and let them know they mean a lot to you. Sometimes, it’s easy to misunderstand each other, but it’s always easier to make a partner feel more secure if you try.
# Put yourself in their shoesOne of the best ways to deal with jealousy in a relationship is to learn to put yourself in your lover’s shoes. What would you have done if you were in your lover’s place? Would you have behaved the same way?
Always put yourself in their shoes and try to understand what your partner is going through. Perhaps, you thought your partner was flirting. But maybe your partner was just being nice or trying to make a good impression on someone else, and you assumed they’re flirting. Does everything in the world have to revolve around your partner wanting to break up with you, or cheat on you?
# ReassuranceOne of the best ways to deal with jealousy is to reassure your partner when they’re feeling jealous. If you react with anger instead of reassurance, things will only get worse.
Tell your partner that you’re sorry to have neglected them unintentionally, if you did neglect them. Or just reassure your mate and let them know how much you love them and care about them.
When someone gets jealous, remember, more than anything else, they’re afraid of losing you and they want your attention, badly!