Indecisiveness is a common trait among many people. But little did we know that there is an underlying cause to this slightly annoying habit.
To actually understand indecisiveness, you need to remember that people who are indecisive are not really interested in their own final decision. They are more concerned about who is involved in the outcome of their decision.
They are experiencing inner passivity which is borne out of a misguided idea that they are weak and helpless. They are deciding without really believing in their own authority.
No matter what decision they make, the choice is usually based on the perception of the person or people who are involved.
They can’t make a quick decision because they don’t want to be blamed for failing to make the right one. Even if that’s not the case, they’re still reluctant to do so in case they make the wrong one for themselves.
Shallow or not, the reasons for indecisiveness are borne out of self-doubt. No matter which choice a person ends up making, there is a huge possibility that they will not be happy about it, unless the person they’re with assures them that it is.
# Plan B, C, D and so forthIf your partner can’t decide on Plan A, it’s your job to give them as many viable options as possible. Make sure that you’re always ready to help them, so it would help to study up on the things that they have trouble deciding with – even when it’s about your relationship.
# Put your foot downWhen your partner can’t decide on their own, it’s time to call in your “Relationship Card.” You are now a unit, which means that your decision matters just as much as theirs. If you are allowed to make the decision – because some can only be made by your partner – you should show your assertiveness and just do what needs to be done.
# Find your centerIf you are not in a position to make a decision for your partner, it’s best that you just step aside and take a breather. Dealing with an indecisive partner takes a lot of patience. If you have very little of that, you better start training yourself to have more.
# Think outside the box
Your partner may be having doubts about their decision because they have a firm grasp of what the outcome may be. You can help your partner by offering options that they aren’t familiar with. An example would be choosing to move in to a place they don’t know about, but is just as safe and beautiful as your other options.
# Be a little selfishGiving your partner too much leeway can be disadvantageous sometimes. This is where you can draw the line and tell them that what you want should matter as well. Don’t force your decision on them, but do explain that it would make you happy to decide for both of you. If they don’t agree with you, return to #1.