5 Ways To Help You Initiate Intimacy With Your Partner

There’s something comforting about having your partner be the one to initiate sex first. When your husband initiates lovemaking it gives you the confidence that he’s in the mood and makes you feel desired.

However, if your spouse is the only one initiating sex it may cause you to feel awkward or uncomfortable when you are the one who wants to broach the subject. This can make many wives feel frustrated and go without sex due to not wanting to be the one to make the move.

* Create a buildup

If you want to make the first move but aren’t sure where to begin, don’t be nervous. You don’t have to be especially forward or do anything outside of your comfort zone to get his attention. Letting your husband know you’re in the mood doesn’t mean pouncing on him as soon as he walks through the front door.

* Send a dirty text

If you’re shy about verbalizing your desires, why not text it to your husband? Many couples send erotic photos back and forth, however, sending naked photos is not always safe or private*. There are plenty of ways to send a suggestive photo without baring it all. For example, you could take a picture of your sexiest lingerie laid out on the bed. Typing out your desires is also a great way to get his attention.

* Create a naughty codeword

If you’re shy about initiating sex but still want your man to know you’re into the idea, you can set up a naughty codeword in advance.

* Go purely physical

Men don’t always pick up on subtle hints, especially when it comes to sex. You may spend your whole afternoon leaving little hints that you want to go to the bedroom with no good results. In your mind, he’s rejecting your advances, in his mind no offer was ever made. To be blunt: when it comes to initiating physical relations with husbands, subtlety is not your friend.

* Dress up and roleplay

Nothing says ‘Take me now’ like dressing up for the occasion. Slip into your sexiest negligee and strut into your bedroom. You don’t even have to strut if you don’t want to. Just come in looking gorgeous in your corset or babydoll chemise and he’ll know exactly what you’re after.