5 Ways To Spice up Romance in Your Married Life

Everyone wants a satisfying marriage but what are they willing to do to make that happen? We find ourselves becoming complacent, then resenting our partners without necessarily understanding why and how to fix it. Let’s look at some very common bad habits most of us have. It’s necessary to adjust the way we think in order to enjoy romance and sex in our relationships.

Here are some of the main steps that need to be taken to get and keep the romance going in your relationship:

* Communication

When romance fades in a relationship usually one or both partners have shut down not just sexually but also emotionally. They start to withdraw and isolate themselves as well as their partners. This makes having romance and sex more difficult when we’re not connected and in tune with each other. When it comes to romance sometimes the sexiest thing our partners can do for us is, communicate with us. It takes a risk and being vulnerable to use communication effectively with loved ones.This can be considered maintenance for your relationship in keeping the lines of communication open.

* Cultural expectations

Hollywood movies, tv, magazines, and Facebook are very unreliable when it comes to sex and relationships as well as reality in general. Many people don’t think they fall into this trap but it’s extremely difficult to not be affected at all by our culture. Exposure to media actually instills fear, insecurity and creates an expectation of perfection. As a result of being inundated by billboard models and the various media used in the American culture, we have a very warped view of how our bodies should look, and how we should behave with others.

* Create space for yourself and your partner

It is vital for any partnership to have some alone time as well as time spent together. It’s important to have your alone time for reflection. This includes masturbation which people have so many mixed feelings about. Before having been with a partner masturbating allows people to explore the body, create pleasure and have an understanding that our sexuality is for us and doesn’t belong to anyone else. Contrary to what some may think you could also masturbate with your partner. This is not a blow to someone’s ability to please but something that is very important for most people regardless of being in a relationship or not. We need to respect our own boundaries as well as our partner’s and the desire for privacy when needed.

* Stay open minded

We are set up to fail when we think we need to follow a script and that to have romance and sex it needs to follow a certain order. For example, someone may feel they need to have a fancy dinner in a restaurant, then a romantic movie before getting physically intimate. Or when it comes to sex many feel that it doesn’t count unless it finishes with intercourse with the man climaxing. It takes the pressure off when things don’t always go along with these expectations.

* Have respect

This is how we can feel safe in our relationships. It allows us to have trust when we use care in speaking to each other. This means fighting fair and being kind when there’s a disagreement. When we feel safe, respected and understood by our partners we feel content and more at ease. When the right conditions are there in the relationship we are then much more likely to want more romance, intimacy, and connection.