Having fictional character crushes is a rite of passage for many of us. Whether you’re a boy or a girl, you probably had your first one before you reached the age of ten *and you probably have one right now too!*.
The most popular one to date is Christian Grey, preceded by Edward Cullen. And aside from them, there are thousands of others who’ve made millions of girls and guys swoon at the idea of an idea of a person.
Crushing on a fictional character is not a bad thing though. You can’t help but be impressed by an amazing person who may or may not exist for real, regardless of them being vampires or werewolves.
They may seem like the ultimate dream and are way beyond our reach, but the writers and artists who created your crushes probably based their personalities or a combination of it from real people, don’t you think?
So, as crazy as the idea may seem, it’s not too hard to believe that you can find that person in real life. It’d be hard to find someone who’s supernatural, of course, but we’re talking about personalities here, not superpowers.
# MoneyWhether they were born rich or not, this type of motivator is fleeting. What you’re really looking for is a man who can give you financial stability. Look for a guy who has the potential to provide a good life for you. If you feel that you deserve an extravagant way of life, it’s not a man’s job to do that for you. It’s yours.
# SuperpowersIf you are easily impressed by men who can stop bullets with their pecs or fly you to the moon and back *hopefully, in a space suit*, you are probably attracted to the idea of a man’s strength. You want to be protected and cared for. A man like that is easy to find. He’s the guy who would do anything for you and care for you whenever you need him. If anything else, caring more about you than he does himself is the best superpower.
# Dashing Personality
If you look at most people’s fictional crushes, you will see that most of them have the ability to melt you right on the spot. This superpower is called sex appeal. If a guy is confident enough to pull it off, you can have your own boy next door with a mischievous glint in his eye.
Confidence is the key to having that sort of effect on women. You can easily find a guy like that because you can feel his intensity when he looks at you with want and need.
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Killer Good LooksIf you can’t get over how your fictional crush looks, then you are in for a treat. You are most likely attracted to their overall physique, which is made up of different enticing qualities. It’s almost impossible for you to find a man that looks exactly like a novel graphic or a celebrity, but you can always find one who has the same attractive qualities, albeit in smaller amounts. Just remember, physical appearances don’t amount to much. Having a type is a much better way to go about it.
# Courage and ValorSeeing or reading about your crush vanquish monsters or put a culprit behind bars can be really hot. It’s the equivalent of a lion killing a gazelle for his mate – and er, other mates – which shows you that you’re simply reacting to a primal need for an alpha male.
This means that you want a man who is dominant and has the necessary qualities that make up an assertive partner. Not only that, you want someone who can protect you and keep the baddies away. To find a man like this in real life, you need to look at how he treats you and how much he values you. Check to see if he’s protective of you, but not in a suffocating way.
# Romanticism
And the number one requirement? The ability to push your romantic boundaries. Villain or no, fictional crushes are usually those who spout out killer lines and can take you to uncharted places that have fairy mood lighting and bamboo fountain sounds in the background. That is easily remediable in real life.
Just get your partner to book a place at a really cute spa and don’t forget to tell them to amp up the romance once in a while. It never hurts to ask and if they’re not willing to try – even with budget-friendly options – then they may not be your guy.