We all want to know how to turn someone on. If you thought you were the only one asking how to turn someone on just by spending time around them or talking to them, well, you’re not alone!
But, turning someone on consists of more than physical attraction. Have you ever seen someone very attractive, but the minute they speak, you’re turned off?
See, attraction is more than just physical appearance. That’s probably not what you want to hear. Of course, it would be so much easier to know all you had to do is wear Gucci sneakers or talk about dogs to turn someone on.
But the thing is, whether you like it or not, we’re emotional beings.
Physical attraction can only do so much. Though physical attraction can work for short-term attraction, if you want to develop something long-term, you must figure out what turns people on emotionally.
# HygieneThis might sound like an obvious thing, but most people like others who keep themselves clean. And being “clean” goes beyond just taking a shower regularly.
For example, if you are a guy with a long bushy beard, you might think it looks cool, but maybe some women find it unhygienic and icky. Or if you have dirt under your long fingernails, that could gross some people out too.
Beyond just your body, people also look to other surroundings too. For example, if you went to a date’s house and it looked like they were a hoarder with dog poop everywhere, would you be turned on by them? Of course not! Or if their car smelled and had rotting food in it? Yuck! Enough said.
# Sense of humor
Life is serious enough. We all can get bogged down with our own personal woes in life. So, when people come into our lives and they make us laugh, that is a major turn on!
Now, you don’t have to be a professional standup comedian in order to become attractive to other people. But if you can find humor in normal, everyday things, that is a great quality and most people love that.
For example, if you are the type of person who laughs their way through a horror movie, that could be a huge turn on. Or simply not taking themselves or anything else in life too seriously. That is a characteristic that many people find irresistible.
# Sound of the voice
There is a reason that most of the voice-overs in a movie trailer or a TV commercial all sound alike. They are usually deep, booming voices. The reason for that is because most people find that sound to be very authoritative, and even downright sexy.
That’s not to say that if you don’t have a sexy voice, you will be unattractive to people and won’t know how to turn someone on. And it’s also not to say that only deep male-sounding voices are desirable. But, there is some sort of animalistic instinct when it comes to people’s voices.
Unfortunately, that’s not something you can control. But it does remain a fact that someone’s voice can help turn other people on.
# Social skillsWe live in the kind of world where charisma and charm are two huge qualities that turn people on. For some reason, a lot of people are attracted to the outgoing type personality. It kind of just pulls people in.
But you don’t need to be a big extrovert in order to have good social skills. If you are comfortable talking to anyone and can fit into any social situation, most people find that quite attractive. But don’t fret if you’re an introvert. Many people like that too!
# Kindness and empathy
Going hand-in-hand with social skills, most people are attracted to kindness and empathy.
Think about it. If you went out on a date with someone and they were rude to your server, would that turn you on? Probably not! Rudeness is not attractive at all.
Empathy is something people love as well. When a person can put themselves in another person’s shoes and see their perspective on life, it’s something that people can really relate to. Especially when that person has empathy for them, that is a huge turn on.
# Financial responsibilityFinancial responsibility is different than being rich, although it does sound similar to it. You may not have a lot of money, but if you handle it well, then that is attractive.
Let’s say you started dating someone you like, but then you find out they went bankrupt and had their house and car repossessed. And now they are living in their parents’ basement. Would that be an attractive quality? No, probably not to most people.