Trust is such a delicate and yet magical word in relationships. If you can learn to trust your partner, you’d have a lover, a best friend, and a confidant all in one. But, first, you need to know how to build trust in a relationship.
Trust can do so many happy things to a relationship. The best thing it can do is bring both of you closer, avoid pain and hurt. It can make you fall more in love with each other every single day.
The problem is, if you’ve been hurt just once in the past, you can easily start to develop trust issues that can plague your relationships from that point onwards. By learning how to build trust and focus on healthy connections, your relationship stands a far better chance of going the distance.
# Talk about the long termAre you looking for a serious relationship with your lover? If you are, you’re obviously in for the long haul. So make plans for it too. Talk about building a bigger house, having a pet, or how both your lives would be ten or twenty years from now.
By talking about the future, you’re reassuring your partner that you truly want to be with them and see them in your life even as the years and decades pass by.
# Be dependableBeing dependable is one of the biggest factors in knowing how to build trust in a relationship. If your partner asks you to get something on your way back to your place, do you get it or do you forget it?
It could be the little things or it could be the big ones, but if you can be dependable, it makes all the difference in a happy relationship.
# Talk about the people you find attractive
This can seem awkward and weird, but this is one of the biggest factors in building trust in a relationship. One of the biggest insecurities in a relationship is the fear of a partner straying away into someone else’s arms or liking someone else secretly.
But by actually acknowledging that either of you can find someone else attractive, you’re not making it taboo anymore. And by being truthful about it, you can build trust in the relationship and improve communication too.
# Understand each other as you change and growOur likes and dislikes change all the time. Talk to your partner about each other’s interests and dreams, what either of you wants to be doing a few years down the lane, and where both of you should go on a vacation the next time around.
Ask about your partner’s day at work, and find out about their friends and all the other little details. When you show interest in each other’s lives, you understand each other better, improve communication, and easily build trust in a relationship.
# Learn to be frank in loveLearning to trust each other or even communicate isn’t just about talking with each other or having a laugh. It’s also about expressing a negative opinion once in a while even if it sounds harsh.
Withholding your frustration won’t stop your partner from doing the same thing again. If something hurts you or is holding your partner back from achieving something better, talk about it when the time’s right.
One of the biggest mistakes couples do is expect their partner to read their mind.
Yes, you’ve been together for a long time, but that’s no reason to become mind readers. Even the best of lovers can overlook a few details now and then. So if something’s bothering you, learn to speak out the very instant it bothers you.
# Go on a date night once a weekYou and your lover may be spending your evenings together, but are you really spending time with each other? Most of us watch the television or surf the phone while having dinner, and even while lying in bed. When you’re just spending time together without really talking, there’s no communication in the relationship.