You feel your relationship is one-sided. You are the one doing all the giving, and he, all the taking. If you are exhausted and unhappy yet choose to continue to pursue the relationship, then read on. A man who is not in love will give you signs you mean nothing to him. It’s time to bite the bullet and make the right decision for yourself, after all, you’ve done enough for him. So how do you know if he’s not serious about you?
# He’s distant and unavailableThis is one of the first obvious signs you mean nothing to him. When you call or ask to meet, his usual reply is that he is busy. Once you start hearing the word `busy’ very often, the signs he is keeping you as an option are pretty clear. The question here is, are you looking for a long-term relationship or just a fling? Figuring out what you want from the relationship will help you decide either to end things or enjoy it while it lasts.
A man who loves his partner will usually make time for them even if he is under stress or has tons of work. From time to time, he will call just to hear your voice and reassure you that once the project is done, he will have more time for you. This is someone ready to invest emotionally in the relationship and even with work pressures he is indicating you are important to him.
# He ignores youThis is a pretty harsh and shocking sign you mean nothing to him. When you talk to him, he is browsing his phone. When he sees you trying to move the dining table, he doesn’t even bother to ask you if you need help. When you cry, he walks out the door saying he has no time for your nonsense. Being ignored by someone you love is very painful. A man who gives you signs that you are not special to him is not serious about the relationship.
Rather than continue in the hope that his feelings for you will change, it’s better to put an end to the relationship. You don’t want to be an option for him when he’s bored. It will hurt and you will cry your eyes out, but in the long run, you will emerge with your confidence and self-respect intact.
# He stops communicating with youHow a man speaks and looks at you says a lot about how he feels about you. When your partner loves you, he usually wants to share his thoughts, talk about his work and about things that matter to him. You are irresistible to him. However, if you are sitting at a restaurant with your partner and your friends and he isn’t making eye contact with you but is chatting up your girlfriends instead, take this as one of the signs you mean nothing to him.
# His rudeness is a shocking sign you mean nothing to himActions speak louder than words. Sometimes he blows hot and sometimes he blows cold. Either way, he is treating you badly. He does not make eye contact, he cold-shoulders you, he embarrasses you in public, and he often shouts at you. All clear signs you mean nothing to him.
If this is a sudden change in his behavior, he is probably feeling trapped in the relationship and doesn’t know how to end things. A good idea would be to ask him calmly if he still loves you and values the relationship enough to try to work things out. Open the door for an honest conversation and perhaps both of you might be able to work things out. On the other hand, if he is always rude to you, then he was never interested in you. The signs that you’re just convenient to him mean it’s better to break up before things escalate to violence.
# He gets angry and impatientThis is a classic sign that he has fallen out of love with you. Sure, we all get angry and upset sometimes. The operative word here is ‘sometimes’. If he tends to be angry and upset with you all the time, it’s probably a sign he is keeping you as a backup never a priority. Your once kind and caring partner now shouts at you and throws things around.
If you’ve been wondering, how do you know if he’s not serious about you, pay attention to his behavior. If he’s serious and values you, his bad mood will usually blow over after a few days. He will apologize and be open to talking about it. That’s just part of being in a relationship. One of the signs that you are not special to him is that his anger lingers. He will find fault with you, blame you when things go bad and lash out with nasty and abusive words. Over time, this could turn to physical abuse so better put an end to the relationship.
# He forgets important datesHe forgets to call you or plan a date on Valentine’s Day. This, despite you sending him a sweet message saying you hope to have a cute, fun and romantic date together. Worse, he doesn’t even send across a bouquet of flowers. You wait for his phone call or message saying he loves you but nothing arrives. He forgets your birthday and anniversary. When you ping him a reminder, he ignores it or replies saying that he’s busy, he’ll call later, but doesn’t.
This is one of the shocking signs you mean nothing to him yet you overlook it. You’ll cry into your pillow and wonder if you are overreacting. You aren’t, so quit fooling yourself. If these things are important to you and he ignores them, say a quick goodbye to the relationship because it has no happy future for either of you.