6 Major Signs Your Husband Resents You

Have you been noticing signs your husband resents you? Maybe he behaves with you in a passive-aggressive manner or snaps whenever you talk to a male friend or even when you hang out with your circle. You might also feel he is jealous of your achievements.

Feeling contempt and resentment in marriage to some degree is common but not healthy. As your relationship progresses, you might feel that your husband hates you or resents you or is no longer the man you fell in love with. A recent study stated that when people feel angry toward others, they tend to exhibit antagonistic behaviors that are harmful for relationships. Angry partners display hostility by nagging and complaining, blaming their partners, being hostile and demanding, and invalidating or rejecting their partners.

# He feels neglected and unappreciated

Your husband might resent you because he feels neglected, ignored, or unappreciated in the marriage. It could be in any form – lack of intimacy or sex, lack of love and affection, constant criticism, no appreciation of his efforts or gestures, etc. You might have said or done something that made him feel humiliated, unimportant, or disrespected. Or you are burdened by your household or parental responsibilities and, in the process, your husband feels neglected instead of communicating his need for love.

# He might be cheating on you or knows that you are

Another reason your husband hates you could be that he is cheating on you or knows that you are cheating on him. Infidelity can be a major cause for contempt and resentment in marriage. If you’ve cheated on him, being apologetic about it might not be enough. He might not be able to forget the betrayal, which might make him bitter and resentful. Another possibility is that he is having an extramarital affair and likes to spend time with them instead of you. The fact that he feels ‘stuck’ with you might make him hate you.

# You share a good friendship with men

This is one of the most common reasons that husbands develop a resentful attitude toward their spouses. They might feel a little intimidated, jealous, or suspicious of your guy friends. They might even look at your friendship with men as a threat to their marriage. Such thoughts are also the result of insecurity or a patriarchal mindset, according to which a woman or spouse is expected to not talk to or share a rapport with men other than her partner. So, if you notice that your husband’s attitude changes every time you speak to a male colleague or friend, know that he has a problem with it and that it could be a reason he resents you.

# Dirty fighting

Fighting fair and in a respectful manner is a sign of a healthy relationship. If you’re hurling abuses, taunting, engaging in personal attacks, blame-shifting, or name-calling him, it might lay the ground for too much resentment from the husband in the marriage. Both partners need to solve the problem respectfully and in a calm manner, not accuse or sentence each other.

# He feels you don’t do as much work as him

This is again one of the most common signs your husband resents you. In a relationship or marriage, when one partner feels like they are contributing more than the other or putting in more effort into the marriage than their spouse, it is bound to create resentment. Whether it’s the house, children, family, or financial matters, if your husband feels he is the one doing the major work or you’re not contributing as much as him, you might have to deal with contempt and resentment in your marriage.

# You nag, criticize, or treat him like a child

If you talk negatively, try to change him, find fault in everything he does, treat him like a child, and make him feel incapable, he might just begin to develop resentment toward you. You are his partner, not his parent. Putting yourself in the role of a parent and considering your husband a child can make him feel inadequate and ‘less-than’. He might feel like you’re trying to control the relationship or ‘manage’ him.