You just had amazing sex with this guy, but now he acts weird and distant. Why do guys distance themselves after intimacy? It’s time you found out why.
You’re not the only one who thought they connected with a guy during sex. Then they magically disappear after, leaving you wondering why do guys distance themselves after intimacy. Oh no, this isn’t the first time. If anything, this is one of the most common questions women ask about men. And it makes complete sense, I mean, come on, why the fuck would you do that? Assholes.
Okay, okay, name calling isn’t going to get us anywhere. What we need are answers! We usually end up looking at ourselves and what we did wrong. Did I let out a tiny fart? Was I too aggressive? Was the sex bad?
# The chase is overPeople love flirting with each other and playing games , even though all of us have said at one point “I hate playing games.” At the end of the day, we love it. We love being chased, and they love to do the chasing.
But now that you’ve slept with him, the chase is over. So, what’s he doing? Continuing onto the next chase. I know, it’s sad, and what ends up happening? You start chasing them.
# He can’t have a relationshipIt’s not actually you that’s the problem. What’s the problem is that he sees that this is not just a fling but something that could become serious. He doesn’t want serious. It’s not because you’re not right for him, it’s because he’s not ready.
You probably have heard him say to you, “I’m not ready for anything serious,” but, knowing you, you chose to ignore it and see if you were the exception. Well, you’re not and that’s why he’s distancing himself.
# He never intended on sleeping with you more than onceI know this one is going to sting, but sometimes, guys are specifically looking for a one-night stand. Now, of course, the right thing to do would be to tell you this, but in some cases, they don’t because they know you wouldn’t sleep with them otherwise.
But this guy is a player. He wasn’t planning on anything more with you than just that night and that night only.
# You’re moving too fastNow that you slept with him, you’re already making him breakfast in bed and planning your weekend together. Slooooow down there. If you’re already planning your future with him after one night, he’s gonna run and he’s gonna run fast. You need to slow it down and go with the flow for now.
# You’re clingyOkay, so maybe you’re not acting clingy now, but he can sense the potential for you to be a clinger. I know you really like him and want something serious, but clinging to him like he’s a life raft isn’t going to work. All of us, including you, have a neediness and clinginess detector inside of our minds and the minute we sense that we bail.
# He’s scaredMen are terrified of love. Trust me, I know. The minute they see the potential for them to like you, they run away. They don’t want to get hurt, nor do they want to lose their single life. Plus, having serious feelings for someone is a big deal. So, if you’re aware he has feelings for you and he’s acting distant, he’s terrified.