Trust me, we can decode that eye roll and imagine what’s going on in your mind: “Why should I save a bad relationship?”, “How do you know if your relationship is even worth saving?”, “What to do when you don’t know if you should break up?” All valid questions, but when you know how to focus on the positives instead of the negatives in your relationship (which seem to crop up every day), you’ll be able to appreciate what you have. And that’s exactly what we are going to help you with today!
# You still feel about them
Sure, you may have just had the nastiest fight with your partner but that doesn’t necessarily spell doom for what you two have cultivated. Then again, say you have been through a significant amount of heartache and pain caused by your partner and you have temporarily fallen apart. If your partner comes back, you still won’t be able to love them completely, at least not initially.
# Their actions prove itIf your partner has broken your trust, the way they behave afterward should tell you all you need to know. It’s not just words and elaborate expressions of true love, but actions that matter. You would know that they feel guilty and are not ready to lose you if they are genuinely trying to communicate and hear you out about the issues you might be facing.
# A pause gives you a new realitySometimes, the obvious signs you should not break up are right in front of you, you just need to look at them from a calmer state of mind. In situations like this, it can help to take a pause and breathe. Small arguments, slight differences in taste, or a short-lived difficult period in the relationship aren’t reasons enough to break up and pack up.
# You realize your partner’s expectationsLove is not what you do for yourself, it is what you do to serve others. Often, we end up giving people what we want, instead of trying to understand what they really want. Perhaps all your partner wants from you is your time and attention, but you shower them with material gifts instead. Basically, you often end up speaking different love languages.
# When should you not break up? When you’re overthinking your worriesHaving doubts about your relationship every now and then is normal. Yes, constantly worrying about your partner’s fear of commitment is not exactly a fun ride but that doesn’t mean you should give up on the good times you have with them and break up immediately. After all, every relationship matures as you grow together and if you are a little patient, they might also see the future from your perspective.
# You have mixed feelingsEven the best of us fall into this trap of confusion sometimes. Say your partner has driven you up the wall and now you want to split up. The next day, they make up for the fight by doing something that melts your heart like the April snow. Naturally, you can’t help but wonder what would have happened if you slammed the door in their face the previous day.