6 Signs To Help You Overcome Insecurities

Have you ever felt like you don’t like someone because that person always seems better than you? Are you threatened by the mere presence of that someone? If you feel this way to a certain somebody, then you are probably insecure with him or her.

Hard to admit, right? However, if you want to overcome this, then you need to accept the reality first. You have to face your insecurities and fight them head on before they swallow you up.

Insecurity is the sister of jealousy. You tend to dislike a person, because s/he is a threat to your comfort zone or territory.

This is a normal issue even among animals. In a pride of lion, males fight and kill each other so that there will be only one left to lead. Then, when male cubs grow older, they have to leave the group and create their own pride before the reigning king could kill them. Wolves also fight for the position of the alpha in the pack.

Insecurity may be a primitive instinct common to humans and animals for survival, but as a civilized person, it can do more harm than good. When you let insecurities defeat you, your self-esteem and relationship with others will be destroyed.

Here are some tips that can help you overcome your insecurities:

* Know that it makes you pathetic

You may sometimes feel that you do better than the person you are insecure with, but actually you are in bondage to the thought that s/he is better than you. Remember, that is the reason why you always struggle to prove yourself. That alone makes you a loser.

* Appreciate your uniqueness

You need to understand that you are unique and special. You should not feel bad when someone is better than you in one area, because you cannot get everything. Each person has strengths and weaknesses, so you just have to accept yours. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, celebrate your strengths.

* Compete with yourself, not against others

Competition can be a good motivation, but only when aimed at the right opponent. Stop trying to be ahead of others. This way, you do not have to feel proud when you do better than others, and wallow in self-pity when you fail to beat them. Instead, compete with the past you. Challenge yourself to be better than yesterday.

* Stop stalking

Stalking is a mental disorder that triggers envy and jealousy. If you cannot resist the urge, try the seven-day challenge of not doing it. They say it takes 21 days to establish a habit, and 7 days to break it. So, take those 7 days slowly and seriously. Reward yourself for each day you accomplish it.

* Try to be friends with the person

This is a tough challenge, but if you succeed, this can help get rid of the dislike that eats you up. As you know him/her better, you begin to see the person’s positive traits. Who knows? You may realize s/he is not that bad at all.

* Challenge yourself to think and say only positive things about others

Learning to appreciate others will help you remove the bad vibes you have for them. Control your thoughts and words about other people. As you do so, you feel better about yourself, because you know you do nothing bad against anybody.