6 Signs To Know If She is Flirting With You

The problem with flirting is that it can be surprisingly subtle. If you’ve ever wondered, is she flirting with me, you understand what I mean! It’s designed that way for a reason. It’s a way to find out if someone likes you back. Seriously, you’re not going to go all out and tell them or really show them, are you?

Flirting is a way of putting your hand half in the “do they/don’t they” mix, without actually going all in. So, if it crashes and burns, you can shrug your shoulders and say you’re just being friendly.

Clever, right?

By being half in and half out, you’re actually not giving the person you’re flirting with a clear signal. They might be confused about whether you’re flirting or being friendly. As a result, you might not make a move in fear of being wrong about the whole thing.

# She looks at you, smiles, and looks away

Basically, this is an invitation to talk to her. She’s silently trying to invite you to! It’s the single most obvious ‘is she flirting with me’ yes sign. If she’s not flirting with you, then it means she’s flirting with someone standing behind you!

# She makes excuses to be around you

If she’s around you more often than she normally would be, or she’s there when there’s no actual reason for her to be there, it’s because she’s choosing to be.

Yes, this could mean she thinks you’re a great conversationalist and likes spending time with you in a platonic way. But if you notice a few more of the flirting signs too, it’s a pretty firm nod towards the ‘yes’ camp.

# She touches you casually


Does she casually nudge you or touch your arm? Women don’t do this unless they want to touch the person in front of them. She wants to touch you because she likes you!

A good example is when she laughs at something you’ve said *it probably wasn’t even that funny* and nudges you playfully. She might even look intently at you when you’re talking, showing her interest, and touch your arm gently in an almost absent-minded way.


# She licks her lips or bites her lip

She’s majorly flirting if she does this! Is she flirting with me? Yes, she is! It’s an even bigger yes if you notice that she is looking at you, smiling, then looking away. Lips are sensual. If she is biting her lip or licking her lips and looking at you shows that she’s probably not thinking completely pure thoughts!

# She mirrors your body language

We all do this if we like someone. It’s a subconscious thing that we do without even realizing it. If you notice that she is mirroring your body language, e.g. if you’re learning casually against the wall and she starts to do it too, it shows that she’s comfortable with you. But it’s also a sign that she likes you.

# She laughs at your jokes, funny or not


Sorry, but nobody is going to laugh at your jokes if they’re not funny. If she’s laughing a louder laugh than the joke deserves, she’s definitely flirting. She’s also likely to accompany this with a playful nudge or a touch on the arm.
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