6 Signs You are Ready To Move in and it is Not Too Soon For You

Firstly, even before wondering if it’s too soon to move in, you need to understand that readiness to move in together can come down to the facts or the feelings. There is a lot to consider.

Do you feel close enough to each other? Do you think you’ll be happy coming home to them every day? Will your little fights about furniture or decorating be too much?

And, are you ready financially? Have you discussed the details? Are you buying a home together? Will both your names be on the mortgage? Are you moving into their place or they yours, or are you getting a new place? What’s your budget? Are you comfortable discussing money? Will you split costs or will one of you pay more because you make more? Will one person take over household chores or will you share? Have you talked about if you will pay bills together?

I know this is overwhelming and a lot to think about, but living together takes this all into account. If this is too much for you, you may want to put living together on hold.

# You can talk about money

And agree on a budget. If one of you makes more than the other, are you okay with an imbalanced contribution? If you make less, is your partner willing to get a smaller place so you feel more equal or do they want what they can afford?

You need to be able to come to understandings and compromises in order to find a place to live let alone actually live there together.

# You want to live together

Lots of couples move in together because it seems like the right time or their leases are up or it just makes sense. But, even with all that, if you don’t genuinely want to come home to them everyday, this will cause a lot more trouble than it’s worth.

# You’ve spent a fair amount of time together

This is something that some couples speed by but can really help you figure out if you can hack it together under one roof. It is one thing to stay together for one night, but staying together for a few days or even a week will show you a glimpse of what living together is like.

Do you bicker? Do you respect each other? Are you helpful? Are you lazy? Do you wake up and go to bed at similar times? These are things that will be helpful to learn before living together.

# You know your jobs

A relationship is a team and you should both do your parts. Depending on your work schedules, time, and such you will both have responsibilities. Will you do the cooking and cleaning because you’re home more often. Who will pay for groceries and home decor?

Have an agreement about what you both need to do to keep the household running smoothly so things don’t go unsaid. Also, stay on the same page if anything changes.

# You communicate

This is something that changes drastically when you’re sharing a home. When you are at your partner’s place, you may feel like it is their space so you can’t say anything about their dirty clothes pile or sink full of dishes. But when you share a home, those things are in your space too. Will they bug you? Will you be able to say something?

When you’re wondering how soon is too soon to move in together, as yourself if you hold back sometimes to avoid a fight. Holding back from communicating with each other causes tension and resentment over the long term. You have to be able to communicate about things both large and small to successfully cohabitate.

# You agree on invites

You may love having your friends stopping by unannounced but your partner may be more private. Are there certain friends you both feel comfortable around that can stop by? Who needs to call first? Who will you give a spare key to?